Everyone at school likes me, they all think im a sweetheart adn I dont cause trouble. But I dont feel "close" to any of them. I feel i can confide in them because i just like to talk adn they are willing to listen. But I dont feel the reciprocity. I dont understnad what I am doing wrong. I am always courteous and I do go out with them, but i just feel that it isnt anything spectacular. I just feel so alone.
2007-01-14 15:07:36 · 4 answers · asked by on_a_need2know_basis 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ok, I have friends in that they like me, and we party together. More like acquaintances. Im looking for real friends, like confidants
2007-01-14 15:16:03 · update #1
dont worry, just dont be too judgemental, just let loose, good friends come when u really need them
2007-01-14 15:15:30 · answer #1 · answered by John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple answer:
Looks like your "friends" are exciting, enjoy a good party and such, but don't quite think you fit it.
Beside just getting out and having a blast at the parties, just try hanging around these friends in person, where they don't have to worry about "playing cool to impress each other" and hiding their feelings.
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Ok, you said "Everyone at school likes me, they all think im a sweetheart and I dont cause trouble."...I know the situation all too well my now girlfriend of over a year was literally "miss congeniality" of her high school.
There are plenty of people who listen (hey, it looks intelligent and smart looks cool, right?) but, when it comes down to it, they don't have much in their minds to share or deep personal thoughts to empathize on or philosophize about (typical teenage insecurity).
On top of it, some of them are probably very into sex and, if you're not the type of person they can grab that from (or, if your the same sex, help hook them up with people they can mess around with that way), to them it's not worth their time (more teenage insecurity, again, not your fault).
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So, try and plan something that's going to reflect on your "acquiantence" friend's deeper sides. If you know one of them likes art do an art project with them...if one of them likes music try and start a band and work with them on the lyrics...eventually they are going to wake up and start showing their deeper sides as well as learn, empathize with, and respect your deeper sides...and that's when you will truely be able to confide in them and know they respect you as a person a lot deeper than "that cute guy/girl they just met at the bar".
Best luck!
2007-01-14 23:25:07 · answer #2 · answered by M S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never trust anyone, not even yourself. If you don't feel 'close' to them, don't say anything at all. Don't feel lonely. It's better to not say your secrets at all, then later having the whole school knowing. You should be happy you feel that. Sometimes people don't realize how 'close' they feel towards someone and just blurb out everything. Just because you don't tell them your things shouldn't make you feel lonely. After all, you are a sweetheart,right? :D They probaly think you're the bomb because you don't have problems.
2007-01-14 23:14:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. You say you have friends, and your saying your alone? That's not right. If you have friends, then that means they ARE your friends. If you feel alone, then they're not your friends, they're just aqutenccies. I wish you the best in finding real friends!
Echo
2007-01-14 23:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by Echo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋