How Do I Tell My Mother That I Am Bi?

Question

I have this amazing, terrific girlfriend who I have been dating for almost a month now. I have dated her once before but I was stupid and childish because I broke up with her to persue my relationship with that one guy who has the girlfriend whom I have believed for the last three years that I was in love with him. I really want to tell my mother that I am bi because she is my best friend and we pretty much tell each other everything but I find it hard to tell her what is going on with this particular subject. We joke around with it and everything and when we watch movies and there are lesbians or gays involved, she says she is really glad none of her kids are that way. I feel in a way that I have disappointed her. Let her down in some way. I've used the method where I just go up to her and say, "Mom, I like girls." But she always that I was kidding but when I said I wasn't, she would get all serious so then I'd tell her I was just kidding. I need help. Please and Thank You.

Answer 1

Can the 3 of us hook up... as in you, your girlfriend and moi... wat say? Dun worry i'll break the news to your mom after that... she'll believe me...

Answer 2

it can be really complicated for u 2 go through this but none the less this is an issue that can't be pushed away and needs to be solved.......so here is ur answer..........firstly are u sure about yourself...........i mean we all go through a phase where we want to experiment with our sexuality...but then later we tend to realise that this was just a phase..........if u r not too sure i would suggest you to first take time out for yourself and discove and then confront anyone else about it..........if however u r certain that this is what u r then.........just face the issue head on.........choose an appropriate time to tell ur mom.....just choose a time when u know u r comfortable enogh to tell her and also that she will have enough time to settle down with it..........obviously there will be a little tension and friction between the two of you but be sure that it will all settle down.....just tell her sincerely that u don't want to hurt her but this is just who u r and u cannot help it......tell her this does not mean u r not the same child and does not make u or ur behaviour or feelings towards her any different.....tell her it is just a state of your being and that u r happy with it.....remember she will shout throw a tantrum and may even seem to resent u but she is ur mom do not react negatively and think she does not love u because she 2 will need her time....however writing her a letter will not make sense because truly speaking there is nothing wrong in being a bi it's how u r......then why should u be afraid and try to hide behind a letter to tell her wht u r..........and morover once u both have seen eye to eye on the issue the sooner things will get resolved.........so confront her give her time.....be sure of ur self and most of all have faith and confidence...all the best!!!!!

Answer 3

I know is hard because a relationship with your mother is big.
sometimes you just have to go for it and try to make the best of it .
Your mother loves you and will understand ,a mother never stops loving there kids no matter what . All you need to do is go with your feelings .
sit your mother down and talk to here open your self to here she is your mother nutting about that is going to change not the way she looks at you and not the way she feels about you . I know your confuse but your never going to lose her. she said "im glad none of my kids are these way" guess what you are and she gives you that face but i know that when you tell here and not say your playing she is going to understand. If you stay deniying your self your never going to be happy. everybody is different in this world so dont feel bad everybody likes different thing , just like food thats the way with men and women . this is just advise if your smart take it and tell your mom your true feelings because then she wont help you find your true self. No matter what that true self will be you will always know she is right next to you suporting you. And thats the beauti of having a mom.

Answer 4

Go up to her when it is just you and her and say something like "mom, I have something to tell you that I have been wanting to tell you for a long time. But I have been afraid, afraid of how you will react, I don't want you hating me or not supporting me, but I don't want to keep secrets from you, I trust you. And I am sorry if this hurts, but I am hoping that you will still love me and accept me the same because I will still love and accept you no matter what you say. Basically, I like girls, and guys too! And I know we joke around about it and you never take it seriously if I mention anything about it or refuse to believe hints that i give you, but this is real. This is me."

... I hope everything works out for you! And no matter what her reaction will be she will still love you, though it may take a long time for her to get over this, she will get over it. Good luck!

Answer 5

It might be that your mom already has a subtle idea that you're bi. That's the impression I get anyway from what you state in your question. She may not be ready to face it though. If/when the situation comes when it feels right to tell your mom, you will know it inside, and it will come out naturally. Until then, don't sweat it. Your sexual preferences are really no one's business anyway, so don't feel guilty for not telling her.

Answer 6

Send her a link to this page. If she is your best frind and you can usual share everyting with her then she will accept it and still love you. She is going to find out one way or the other so Im sure she rather be sooner rather then later and rom you. Dont be too concerned that she will be "dissappointed" sometimes parents can actually surprise you. And let her meet your new significant other so she can see how great they are and how happy they make you.

Answer 7

its a relly hard subject to get into with parents i know because one of my best friends is bi and im fine with that what you could do is just come out and tell her she may be dissapointed for a little bit but your her child she loves you and no one can make you more or less than you are she will get used to it sooner or later and its better to tell her now before somthing seriouse happens cause then youllo regret it

Answer 8

u dont have to tell her.Bisexuality is a state of mind and can change with a period of time what u feel for a single girl cannot be treated as bi - unless u feel the same with a lots of girls - overwhelming sexual desires without feeling any attractiveness to the opposite sex. If u feel strongly about it let her discover it herself

Answer 9

I think that you feel that if you are honest with her she will what HATE you and stop being your Mom?? I think not--she will love you no matter what--sometimes parents voice an opinion that seems harsh and unforgiving but they would never turn away from the persons they brought into the world--so give her benefit of the doubt

Answer 10

Just say it to her. One day or the other you might have to bring out the truth right? So let it be now. The sooner you tell her about it the better.She might be also annoyed that you didn't tell her about this earlier. But she will get over it. But personally i don't think it important for you to tell her about it.

Answer 11

You're going to have to tell her the truth. You're going to have to tell her that you want to talk to her...calmy...rationally....and then just say it. Don't beat around the bush, don't act like you're just playing around.

She might be upset at first....but she is your mother and she'll love you no matter how you live your life...whats most important is whether or not you're happy.

Good luck!