Have you ever been tempted to get with a guy that was giving you more attention than your husband? I need advice. This guy that I'm talking about has worshipped me practically for a long time and my husband just doesn't give me what I need. Please, tell me what to do.
2007-01-14 14:54:59 · 21 answers · asked by JACQUELINE T 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes years ago i would have but not now... Trust me it is not worth it... You need to work on your marriage and keep the home fires burning... I suggest marriage counseling to you... talk with your husband and be honest with him and tell him how you are feeling... DO NOT cheat on him or hurt your marriage. This guy is not different either..... You really need to love and work on your marriage and fall in love with your husband all over again! I am here if you need someone to talk to.
2007-01-14 15:04:07 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can completely see where you could feel tempted. I'm in a completely unsatisfying relationship myself. However, you definitely need to sit back and evaluate all the possible consequences. Some times the chase is the exciting part of the hunt...if you know what I mean. Just because this guy seems to adore you now doesn't mean you won't find yourself in a situation exactly like where you are now. Plus, you also have to keep in mind. Relationships are always exciting in the beginning, but the "new" does wear off. You would definitely be stepping in territory there may not be a return from.
2007-01-14 23:03:35 · answer #2 · answered by mccmb02 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take my advice and don't cheat!! I was in your same situation years ago and I did end up cheating. The guy I cheated with was my husbands best friend. It was the worst thing that I have ever done. I told my husband and all h*ll broke out! My husband and I are fortunatly still together.(It has been 13 years since this incident.) I have come to find out what a totally wonderful man I married. What a loser his best friend was! The biggest thing is I have lived with this guilt everyday of my life!!! Everytime he does somthing sweet for me the guilt just doubles. Please..Please.... think before you do something that could potentially ruin your life!!!!
2007-01-14 23:08:01 · answer #3 · answered by Tammy T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your husband and tell him you want more attention. You need to understand that men will give you the attention when you first meet them and then after everything is no longer new they tend to stop. What I am trying to say here is going into another mans arms is not your answer you need to talk to your husband and maybe spend more time with him.
2007-01-15 00:51:32 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband I worked with a guy that did the same thing payed attention to me and told me things that I was like WOOHOO this is awesome but it wasn't worth losing my marriage. I still talk to this guy and him and my husband have become friends but I never cheated my advice to you Try and talk to your husband and see what happens if things aren't working out then leave your husband but don't cheat on him just because someone is smooth talking his way into your pants.
2007-01-14 23:16:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the exact same spot. I know my husband loves me but it is still hard when anther man tells you what you want to hear. One day that man will stop telling you what you want to hear. Tell your husband what you need, that is what i have been doing it works sometimes and not other times. Make sure you think about everything before you give into the other man
2007-01-14 23:07:14 · answer #6 · answered by diana b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tempting but a really bad idea. It's only going to tear away at your self respect knowing you cheated. Do the right thing, either work on your marriage or get out of it and move on to a different life. Don't risk your self esteem because of lonliness.....it's hard not to but you're worth more than cheating.
2007-01-14 23:24:19 · answer #7 · answered by Justlookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first i think you need to tell your husband what you need. I have been in your situation, i chose to take the temptaion, it ended very badly, and it almost always will. Look deep in yourself and ask yourself what you would do if the roles were reversed, it would hurt you, that the person you love and said " for better or worse" does not trust you enough to tell you what your needs and wants are. Pray and be strong, and remeber, what goes around comes around.
2007-01-14 23:43:44 · answer #8 · answered by wickdwayz2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that phrase "for better or worse"? None said marriage would always be easy, they wrote that in the vows for a reason. You need to talk to your husband about what is going on in your marriage and possibly a counselor. Good luck.
2007-01-14 23:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by loudmouth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did when we first got married,there was this guy who was there for me more than my husband was and I was actually considering cheating. So I told my husband my feelings all of them. He started giving me more attention and I stopped haning out with that guy.
2007-01-14 23:21:50 · answer #10 · answered by lily_shaine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋