Sad and sick of being made fun of :[?

Question

have been sick for a long time now and have had to take a lot of medication after I surgery over the summer, and that added to a lot (too many) problems at home have led to high levels of stress. My hair is falling out in tons, I have lost a lot of weight, and on top of that I have a dry scalp and a lot of flakes are on my head. It is apparent and very embarrassing.

These things are not the problem though because I am getting medical help and am trying really hard to keep up my grades. What makes me sad everyday is how I get made fun of in school. It happens every single day and I never get a break. I get called bad names and they yell "Snowflake" through the hallway because of my flake problem. I go home and cry every night now and cannot help it.

I have tried to ignore it, but nothing is working! These are classmates of mine and people who I thought were my friends. How can I get them to stop? Why do they always attack me? I mind my own business and never make fun of them. :[

I have asked this before and got words of encouragement to remain strong, and believe me, I have tried. How can I get them to stop? Ignoring does nothing. And my school is fairly large. The admin may try something, but they won't protect me all the time. They have too many things to deal with with such a large school and student population. Oh and I have a new nickname now- Frosted Flake. Everywhere I go, I hear that stupid tiger's slogan "Theyy'reeeee greaaatttttt" from people.
Oh and transfering is not an option. :[

Answer 1

I am so sorry for the trouble you are having in school. I was different too and I know that kids can be awful. I was chubby in school until I lost my baby fat. All the girls that made fun of me are fat now! Seen them at my reunion last year! They were really large! Things change! They attack you because they are insecure about themselves. Keep your chin up and remember that things will not always be this way. There are better days ahead! My sister had a lot of dry flakes too and she tried a few tablespoons of cider vinegar in a pot of rinse water and did this every time she rinsed her hair. It tingles but it is a good home remedy to try. It really helped her. It does not hurt to give it a try. I hope this helps. It is really hard to be young these days but I know you will grow into a lovely young adult ! God bless you ,dear! Keep your chin up!

Answer 2

Do these people understand what you've been through? I'm sure they wouldn't be so cruel if they did, or if they went thru the same thing. I am really sorry to hear about your story, I can relate on some level. I know when I was in school, I was made fun of for a lot of things (being shy, quiet, etc.). You have heard right when you were told to try to ignore them, but I totally understand that sometimes it's just not possible. Eventually that stuff will get to you, no matter who you are. Do not, whatever you do, do not ever let these people change the way you feel about yourself. I know that's much easier said than done, but I've always felt that you should only worry about that things that you have control over. You can't keep these horrible kids from feeling a certain way about you, and saying such things, but one thing you can always control is how YOU feel about yourself. Don't ever give that control up to someone below yourself. I say they're below you because of their actions. Believe me girl, you are a much better person than someone that would do that. Don't lower yourself, don't let yourself believe them. You should never forget who you are, that you are a good person and you don't need to let this bother you. Find good friends who always be there for you. This person/s may be someone you never thought would be there for you, but I promise, not everyone is so cold-hearted. Hang in there sweetie, you will get better, and you will be a better person for fighting through this. Don't ever give up.

Answer 3

Growing up is hard and it's probably harder with what you're going through. I can't believe you have such horrible people at your school that they're making fun of someone that is ill and going through a hard time. Do you have any close friends there? Try reaching out to someone who you can trust that can help you fight it through this hard time. It's easier to go through something with someone by your side. Try answering questions people may have if they ask. Be kind and smile. It'll be hard, but if they think you're happy, hopefully they will get bored with you.

Maybe there's a way you can inform your school of your illness and let them know what it is. Have a small assembly or talk to your student government to get support. Sometimes people make fun of things they don't understand because they're not given a chance.

It's hard to be brave and strong when you feel like the world is against you, but take it day by day. Get involved in your school and show that you're a person too with gifts and abilities. Participate in what you can and give back to the community. Soon you'll forget about yourself and the comments may not bother you so much either. I hope you get through this hard time with the help and encouragement you need! Good luck!!

Answer 4

People cut other people down to make themselves feel better, this is called being a bully. I know this for a fact because I was one. I hate counselors but maybe they can keep a document of all the times that the kids did this and then this can help possibly either kick them out or even let you alone. Meaning, every time they pick on you write in a log or a notebook the things that they said as well as the date and time. This could also help if things get into legal matters ( Harassment ). Keep you head up and get through this. You are beautiful because you stand up for what is right. I am sorry that this is happening to you. I hope this will end soon.

Answer 5

Wow, I see this is a major problem for you. Of course, ignoring it is not an option. Unfortunately, it is taking away from your learning experience and making an already tough situation much tougher.

When people mature, they realize these things and learn that this kind of behavior is wrong. Unfortunately, you are still in school with immature people (is it high school?)

I think it is really critical that you tell a counselor at school or someone else you trust. They may not be able to help right away, but this is too much for one person to handle. Even if you are able to get through the day, stuff is building up inside and that isn't emotionally healthy to keep in to yourself. Is there any adult at school you can talk to?

There are laws protecting you and giving you a right to an safe education. If you have a medical condition, you are protected under civil rights laws. I know they don't stop the teasing, but it's important for you to know that you do have the right to an education free from these harassments.

Bullying is a tough issue for school personnel to handle. But staff need to be aware of situations to even begin to address it. A counselor would be able to perhaps lead some groups or talk to students about what they are doing to you. My guess is you are not the only one being bullied by others. (Other students with different issues.)

Another option a counselor may or may not address with you, is the option to have a teacher come to your home to teach you. The school pays for this, in cases of sickness or other cases (like a pregnancy). If you keep a record of how often you are teased, the context, and how this is affecting you, you can build a good case for needing this.

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. You are not alone. Hang in there, and feel free to email me if you'd like...you can send a msg. to my acct. and it goes to my email.

Answer 6

I am truely sorry that you are going through this and can really relate. A very close family member went through something similar while in high school. All I can say is that life is too short to worry about what other people think. I know that you are young and everyone around you is consumed with image and style, but in a few years you won't even know them or see them anymore.

I know that it seems like a long way away, but it will all go by in a flash. You must at all times keep your chin up and a smile on your face. Remember that your life is what you make of it. Be creative in the way you dress, come up with fun ways to hide your imperfections, like a hat or a cool scarf tied on your head. Wear crazy jewelry and unique clothing. Distract from what you don't want other people to notice. The absolute best way to do that is to always smile. Know that God is looking out for you and that he has something special in store for you. The happier you are with who you are, the sooner you will see things begin to change. Good luck and may the Lord bless you!

Answer 7

Well,

Too many people do not realize that true friends are far and few between - When I was young and in school, I had maybe 2 true friends and the rest of the people were just acquaintances. People in general tend to seek out and attack others that are weaker, for what ever reason, to make themselves feel superior. I think that may be just human nature, although it is not right. You have to remember, even though humankind is the most intelligent species on earth, we are still just animals and operate on instincts that are thousands of years old.

You will have to just separate yourself from the rest and focus on healing and becoming strong again. You can do it, our greatest instinct is above all to survive. Read a book on meditation or Yoga and concentrate on making yourself strong from within.

Do some soul searching and identify at least one person you feel is a true friend and look to them for strength without while finding your own strength within.

You can do it, you have to, and most of all, you will make it through this time, but life will continually throw challenges your way as you move forward. That's just the way it is. You just have to step up to this challenge.

Take care...............

Answer 8

Unfortunately, kids are cruel.
Your parents need to sit down and talk with the principal of the school. They CAN stop it. You are entitled to an education without all the hassels. These assholes are making fun of someone with a medical disability. Believe it or not, charges could be brought against them AND the school if the school does nothing to protect your rights. The school has a responsibility to all students. You could also try talking to the school guidance counselor. I'm sorry this is happenning to you. I will keep you in my prayers. God Bless
You could go to school online too. LOTS of kids do it today. My daughter did for her last 2 yrs. Or home schooling.
This situation is causing you MENTAL ANGUISH. Tell your parents to get an attorney if they have to.

Answer 9

Maybe you could play along. I know it hurts, but if you appear to not let it bother you, then maybe they'll stop. Like when they yell "Snowflake!" through the halls, reply with a comment like, "I'm the only snow you'll see all winter!" or "I wouldn't be talking! Your the biggest flake I've ever seen!" Something like that. Believe me, I don't seem to fit in at my school too much either, and last year, I was annoyed to the point that I almost punched someone. But then I recalled the old saying, "If ya can't beat 'em, join 'em." And that's exactly what I did and it worked! It's not a 100% proven theory, but you could at least try. What have you got to lose?

Answer 10

They are attacking you because your self esteem is understandably low and you make an easy victim. Usually when people make fun of someone else, it's because they don't feel good about themselves and they are trying to get attention to boost their own ego. Selfish, huh? I know it's hard now, but looking at the big picture, this is a short phase in your lifetime, and you're going to come through this much wiser, having learned some important lessons, some about friendship, some about self respect, etc. For now, understand that the only people you need to be concerned about are: YOURSELF, your family, and the people who truly care about you. Instead of looking in the mirror and noticing your flaws, focus on your assets and continue becoming the person on the inside that you want to be. Here's a secret I know to be a fact: A LOT of those people who are making fun of you right now are going to be chubby in 20 years and will have their share of health issues, many of which they brought on themselves by smoking, doing drugs, laying out in the sun, etc... So, know that what goes around comes around. Be your own best friend. xo