a reward that needs to be earned?
2007-01-14 14:46:08 · 31 answers · asked by YuckItUp 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
You gain as much from freely given forgiveness as the recipient of your grace.
2007-01-15 03:48:15 · answer #1 · answered by Norman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A gift to be given simply because it takes a lot for a person to truly forgive someone. You could walk to the ends of the earth for someone but if they don't want to acknowledge you, they won't. There is really nothing you can do to erase an incident. I believe the old adage: time heals everything. Thus, with time most things can be forgiven. And it is a gift...
But when I really think about it, it seems like it can be both at different times depending on the situation.
2007-01-14 22:50:57 · answer #2 · answered by falzalnz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would personally see forgiveness as a gift to be given.
I don't think a person should have to earn forgiveness.
If you forgive a person (even if in some ways they probably didnt deserve forgiveness) you are not only giving them a gift but releasing that negative energy from inside of you.
If you see forgiveness as a gift, and not as something that needs to be earnt - it should turn out to be a positive and enlightening experience
2007-01-14 23:11:26 · answer #3 · answered by miss2sexc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both
but even if forgiveness is never earned, giving forgiveness is still the Best thing to do.
Forgiveness does NOT mean that this person was right, NOT that you have to continue to take their sh*t, NOT that you have to kiss *ss and be friends, NOT that you have to say to everybody, "they were right and I was wrong". These are completely different issue.
Forgiveness DOES MEAN that you are free from anger, this person is no longer exerting control over you (and that is exactly what is happening if you are dwelling on your anger at someone)
Forgiveness means that you are free.
And laughter helps the process along. My Q & A is full of silly stuff about my ex. I am over being mad but he is still a good source of entertainment for me.
2007-01-14 23:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by Buttercup Rocks! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think It should be earned..Not a gift..I mean if the person is going to hurt you..you shouldn't just simply forgive them..they should earn it..I have learned that the hard way.
2007-01-14 22:52:23 · answer #5 · answered by Scarlett 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Earned
2007-01-14 22:49:24 · answer #6 · answered by Wandering Sage 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is a gift... You can't really earn forgiveness from someone you wronged if they aren't willing to give it to you. No matter how hard you try to "earn" it if someone doesn't believe you or can't forgive you then there is nothing one can do. So I believe it's a gift to give - you just have to be able to give it (and sometimes it's harder to do than others).
2007-01-14 22:50:30 · answer #7 · answered by SilverBlueBaby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is earned not given, same as Respect
2007-01-14 22:49:34 · answer #8 · answered by Roxie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is reward that needs to be earned. You can't just get your forgiveness doing nothing. You have to actually be sorry for what you did and not just be like, oh forgive me! Its that simple. Hope i Helped! :]
2007-01-14 22:51:53 · answer #9 · answered by Ashton 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am the worst for forgiveness. I can hold a grudge like there is no tomorrow. I guess I believe that it needs to be earned but even then I can not let things go.
2007-01-14 22:51:12 · answer #10 · answered by Marenight 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A gift... to 'earn' forgiveness kind of takes away the whole point.
2007-01-14 22:50:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋