She is developing an eating disorder and while there are a lot of people (professionals included) trying to help her out, it seems that things are getting worse. She is about 6 feet tall, and said that last week she didn't eat a single thing! She didn't excercise either, but she still looks much skinnier... about how much weight would she have lost?
2007-01-14 14:45:29 · 8 answers · asked by Rat 7 in Health ➔ Women's Health
miniyorkielover21, that's a terrible idea! She needs to gain weight, not lose it, and I will always love her no matter what... we have been best friends since we were little children! I want to help her, not hurt her!
2007-01-14 14:50:55 · update #1
Absolutely do NOT tell her you won't love her anymore. Generally speaking, most people with an eating disorder all ready have self esteem/image/confidence problems, and telling her you won't be her friend is just going to make things worse. What she needs is your help and support. It will take time to get through this, and as good as it is to have professionals helping her, she may have to hit rock bottom before she realizes what she's doing to herself. Hopefully it doesn't come to that because by that time something drastic has happened.
Try to passively help change her ways. Engage in a workout with her. If it seems like she may be overdoing it, find a way to get her to stop for a few minutes. What's really important is that she eats something to get nutrition into her. If she absolutely refuses to eat, try some protein shakes or something liquid. You'll comsume fewer calories and nutrients than a meal, but at least it is something with protein and other helpful things.
Her biggest obstacle right now is her, and she has to realize that before she can get the help she really needs. As hard as it may be for you to stick by her side and support her, think of what she must be going through to be doing that to her body.
2007-01-14 15:00:37 · answer #1 · answered by Sir Adam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should probably be put into the hospital. If the professionals are just there for a little bit each week, its not gonna do much. if she keeps this up, she could very well die. I'm sorry she has a problem, but it needs immediate medical attention. I know a 16 yr old who was anorexic and she had a heart attack and died in the shower. I don't know how much she would have lost, but it's definitely not good. Get her some help, PLEASE
2007-01-14 22:52:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMIGOSH! STEP IN THERE! You sound like a good friend, clearly look for a way to help her, but your best friend insticts should be getting in right about now...
Confort her. Tell her you're so worried about her and you love her so much and you don't like seeing her hurt herself. Remind her that she's already beautiful and this will only end up killing her. If you have to be harsh, like she's not getting the point, tell her that straving yourself has never been attractive to guys or anyone and if she keeps it up people will start judging her in ways no one would want as their rep. Wrap your arms around her and tell her that hurting her hurts you, and if she won't stop for herself, stop for you.
Keep stressing how beautiful she is already and how much you love her.
If she denys anything do the whole "I know you too well." If after you talk to her she doesn't improve (give her a week or two) tell an adult.--last resort but it might save her life.
2007-01-14 22:54:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to comfort her. Do not just stop talking to her because it will make it worse. Just comfort and be there for her. And the part about the amount of weight she lost she could have lost like 10 pounds just fromlosing liquid weight. Just make sure you are there for her and I hope she gets better.
2007-01-14 22:53:20 · answer #4 · answered by babygirl 91 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well for one make sure you don't an any way put her down i use to have an eating disorder i got down to 75 pounds at 15 which for my body type is very unhealthy when some one feels like they are getting put down they eat. be there to listen to any of her problems and make sure she doesn't get depressed that was my biggest problem i didn't eat because i felt that took care of it all.
2007-01-14 22:51:48 · answer #5 · answered by Danyale M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get her to the professionals and let them do their work. She sounds as though she is going to do what she wants regardless, so do take on the responsibility of her decisions. Be supportive, but firm and take a stand and tell her what you will and will not tolerate from her. And tell her that you will not stand by and watch her kill herself!!! Again, that is her choice, not yours!!! I know that sounds awful, but that is called tough love and that is what some situations take. You cannot take responsibility for her actions, please, please, please remember that.
2007-01-14 22:51:46 · answer #6 · answered by Cindy Roo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i've been there done that and still battling it
in a week without eating you could lose prob 5 lbs im guessing cause i've done it but im only 5'5" so it might be different for her
2007-01-14 23:43:43 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you wont luv her anymore if she doesnt eat. or just ask her to go running or work out with you. she'll then get tired and hungerful so she'll eat but she'll still have lost some pounds.
2007-01-14 22:49:30 · answer #8 · answered by miniyorkielover21 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋