I love my wife more than anything in the world. However, I have never been good at initiating sex with her. I've either had to just ask or "make an appointment"...for example, in the morning or during the early part of the day, I will imply that we're going to have sex later in the day. It just feels wrong because it doesn't feel random or spontaneous. Now my wife is part of my little problem too. She's never responded well to "the first move" but it's probably because I told her it was going to happen. How do I break the ice and just do it? How can initiate sex with my wife without feeling like it's a chore for her and lame for me?
2007-01-14 14:40:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
dude...
there are many ways
bring home flowers
draw her a bubble bath
give her a massage
BE ROMANTIC and she will want to have sex
2007-01-14 14:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the reason why you are no good at initiating sex with your wife is because of her past. You are f***ing afraid. Your wife had been on drugs, been through a physically abusive marriage, had been raped, and had even been molested by her Uncle. She made it very clear to you that she had had many sexual partners . . . telling you that several times she had sex with more than one person in a day. She also told you the story about how a man with an extraordinarily large penis put her in the hospital.
A woman with that type of tramatic experience and sexual history . . . tend to get bored with sex and is probably psychologically damaged . . . but you have to take to counseling, which you have already mentioned that she won't go. I will tell you the reason why in that question.
My suggestion is to learn to live without it . . . or tell her that if she wants some, for her to make the first move . . . meanwhile, since she is mentally unable to do anything right now . . . I am not justifying it, but you may need to find someone else to do the heavy lifting. And don't just do it behind her back . . . tell her that you will do it, but you would perfer to do it with her because you love her, but you have needs too.
2007-01-17 07:11:45 · answer #2 · answered by Tag Your It 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm guessing that in case you have been married for over 2 many years, that makes you the two around 40, 40 5? if that's the case then a woman's sexchronic can rather shrink simply by premenopause or conceivable different reasons. as with each relationship, the enthusiasm can fade after time. perhaps you will desire to attempt new tactics of beginning it. upload some spice! If that's the standard rub, touch, kiss, experience habitual she may be uninterested in it and it's time to throw some intense seduction into the aggregate! i'm speaking candles, champagne and strawberries, and Barry White! sturdy success!!!
2016-10-19 23:56:16 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all u need to take your panties off cause ihave never heard of anybody setting up an appointment for sex with their wives. but heres a hint:
Picture This: your wife comes home from a long day at work only to see that the house is clean, the kids are fed and in bed. she walks into the dinning room and there is a candle light dinner. when she goes up stairs tell her to relax while you run her bubble bath. knock on the door and ask "honey may i come in". if she says yea, which she will most likely creep in with her. And then take it from there.
2007-01-14 15:08:28 · answer #4 · answered by Judah[[S.P.]] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make out with her like you are teenagers. It will naturally progress from there. If you feel as if you need some sort of prompting, be like, "Hey, let's brush our teeth together" at a really odd time of day. She'll wonder why. Tell her because you want to kiss hes lips tender. She'll get the hint. And she will probably think it is romantic.
2007-01-14 15:02:00 · answer #5 · answered by stampadhesive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reserve a special night of the week for just the two of you. Make it like a Date Night. Sometimes when people get married, the spontanaety dies. This will be a romantic ice breaker and sex will come naturally.
2007-01-14 14:47:53 · answer #6 · answered by ferrisfamily@rogers.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that maybe before she comes home from work to have candle and a bath ready for her and may some extra things that will make her happy but also suprise her. This will help the both of you enjoy making love and have fun at the same time.
2007-01-18 12:35:44 · answer #7 · answered by 2g4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try lighting candles and having soft music playing in the bedroom and start by giving her a full body massage to get her in the mood... You may also want to talk to a sex therapist about this. Make it fun and romantic and you both will enjoy it!
2007-01-14 14:45:40 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is to just take it!!! Women love for the men to be aggresive. Your married don't ask for it just take it!!!! My husband came home one day and said get to the bedroom and I just laughed at him until I realized he was serious. He took it and it was the most awesome sex I have ever had!!Don't be rude about it or anything. My husband and i are madly in love with each other. The forcefulness in this area is extremly erotic! Now go get your wife this minute and just take it!!! She'll thank you for it!!
2007-01-14 14:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by Tammy T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since im a woman i will tell you some things i like my man to do to initiate sex............when my boyfriend gives me a hug from behind and hes fully erect makes me quiver. sometimes i just like my man to grab me up and handle his business when i least expect it. if you have a good relationship you should be able to read your woman enough to catch her at a good time. when you wake up in the morning in bed kiss her face softly and put your fingers in between her legs so you can stroke her softly in the right place. you got to have confidence.
2007-01-14 14:58:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
now this is coming from a girl. first grab a latest issue of Cosmopolitan because it will be your savior and it will make your wife worship you. if not. when she comes home grab her and have your way with her. no words or nothing. just spontaneous, raw passionate sex...
2007-01-14 14:44:41 · answer #11 · answered by santichilebabs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋