I went up north with my friends to go snowmobiling. We went to a bar and I danced with a girl (I was drunk). I am happily married but if my wife ever found out, she might divorce me. Is this grounds for a divorce? I didn't do anything but slow dance. No hand holding, kissing, fondling or anything.
2007-01-14 14:32:50 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe, no I wouldn't divorce you... unless this was common... but you should tell, lest she find out through the grape vine. If you are being honest (and I am going to assume you are) she will forgive you. Life is short. Pray HARD!!
2007-01-14 14:46:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only advice I could give on this is that a bar is no place for married people. Let's face it. Bars are primarily for hook ups. Yes it is possible for married people to go to a bar and behave. However, eventually something (like this right here) will happen and no matter how innocent it was there is still a BAD ripple effect from it. Even if she doesn't ever find out you will have to live with the fear of what if she does. 20 years down the road a buddy could get a little wasted and let it "slip" because after all it was 20 years ago. Right? See...nothing good comes from it. Good luck.
2007-01-14 22:41:17 · answer #2 · answered by mccmb02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know.What was going through your mind?When you choose to dance with this other woman.I do not think it was because you were drunk.I mean you were not so drunk you were unable to dance with her.Not so drunk you do not remember it.I really do not know.Why people that drink want to blame their choices on the alcohol?It is so lame!!You made a choice to dance with this other woman.You alone made that choice. I believe you are sorry.In fact I believe the guilt is eating you up alive every time you look at your wife.I believe the only reason you have not told her the truth about it is because you know it will hurt her.You are afraid she will leave you.The way I see it trying to cover it up is only going to come back to haunt you make a bad situation worse.If your wife loves you.I doubt she is going to divorce you over you telling her the truth.
2007-01-15 00:16:48 · answer #3 · answered by noga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't divorce you, but I have to agree with others that bars are no place for singles. When your drinking everything changes, I don't care who u are, it does. It's much easier to get carried away under these conditions. Your friends should really be pulling you away from this. But really it's your fault for putting yourself in this type of situation. If I was in love I would want to go with my husband or just have one drink and call it quits if I was out with friends. You might loose the best thing in your life if you continue down this path...is it worth it?
2007-01-14 22:55:06 · answer #4 · answered by laura k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't give you the pleasure of a divorce! I would stay with you and make the rest of your life a living h*ll! Seriously if I were you I would keep my mouth shut! As long as your positive it wouldn't happen again why would you hurt her by telling. Just lay off the booze when your not with her! Your wife would see this incident as something more than it was. I guarantee ya!!!
2007-01-14 22:45:22 · answer #5 · answered by Tammy T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No dancing is not grounds for divorce. If she will get upset because of that you guys have a very long road ahead of you. She sounds a little jealous
2007-01-14 22:41:49 · answer #6 · answered by diana b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most states have no fault divorces therefore if she wanted to divorce you she could for no reason. Sounds like you are having a bad case of guilty conscious and if you feel like you are maybe next time you should try to maintain yourself in a different matter. Good luck
2007-01-14 23:18:09 · answer #7 · answered by mamaac43 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i would not divorce you but at the same time i would want you to be honest and tell me what you did... Honesty is the best policy... If you did nothing wrong then dont hide it for goodness sakes.
2007-01-14 22:40:38 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is not always the best policy. If you are truly remorseful, you won't do it again right? Don't tell her unless you want to hurt her. If you do it again, own up and get yourself away from her because then she deserves a man who will treat her better than that.
2007-01-14 22:44:39 · answer #9 · answered by lexus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sigh.. this is going to make me cry... umm.. i think if she really loves you, she'll forgive you.. and by the way you put things together here, it seems like you really are sorry for it.. meanwhile, don't get too drunk..prove it to her that you love and care for her.. also, you should warn your friends to be a little more protective of you when you get yourself in that kind of situation.. Good luck and hope all goes well
2007-01-14 22:41:59 · answer #10 · answered by Angelgirl02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋