what happen
and how did u learn from it
it culd be about anything
2007-01-14 14:31:42 · 9 answers · asked by lovely 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The first time I really stood up for myself (I was 34 years old). I told my husband I was leaving him and getting a divorce. Even though I hurt him and made him angry, he treated me with more respect than he had in years. I really believe we are doing ourselves a disservice by keeping our anger and pain inside and going with the flow. It also is a form of respect by being honest with the other person(s) you have the disagreement(s) with. They might not like what you have to say; but at least you are being honest with them.
2007-01-14 14:39:24 · answer #1 · answered by anybody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes 3 big lessons
1988 - 3 days before Christmas - My first child, my daughter was stillborn. I learned that when my daughter is stillborn - I never got a birth certificate - so according to our government -
I did not have a baby.
My x-husband said I lost the baby, not "we" lost the baby girl, so I divorced him!
GOD help me.
August 2006 - My only surviving child born after my first stillborn baby,
I saw her scars lots of them - and she admitted she was cutting, slashing, self-mutilating herself at 16 years old. Four days later - I sat outside the courtroom for 2 and 1/2 hours to get a court date and on October 16, 2006, I got her court ordered into counseling plus sees pediatrician every 30 days to make sure she's still not slashing her body.
She says I wasted my money! - and that was at Christmas when she stopped by for about 1/2 of a day, and then ran back to her father's - 5 minutes away.
December 2006 - I got an email from a guy I dated for 3 years, telling me he just finished 3 weeks of full brain radiation because he has brain tumors.
Yes, that was in an email. Now he says go away because there's no future here.
January 2007 - I learned again to remember the first few steps of the 12 step co-dependency classes I took.
1. I am powerless over other people, places and things.
2. Only GOD can restore me to a healthy lifestyle.
3. I'm asking GOD for help again - and I am responsible for my own life. I am a good person regardless of how others treat me.
GOD bless us one and all, always.
MBA-Boston Univ.
CPA-retired
2007-01-14 14:49:50 · answer #2 · answered by May I help You? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The event in my life that taught me many very important lessons: custody battle. CPS is not out there to help children-not the right ones atleast, the court system is nothing but a good old boys network,and foremost don't go up against a very vengeful person-you'll loose.
2007-01-14 19:22:45 · answer #3 · answered by Terry Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After the dying of my fifteen year previous son in 1988, I discovered "not" to sweat the small stuff in existence anymore simply by fact i've got been in the process the worst which could happen to a guy or woman, by dropping a baby, it is each confirm's nightmare. appropriate after my son's dying, I took my "bag of existence's priorities" & shook them up rather properly. I then found out that the failings that have been continually on precise of my checklist weren't rather intense priorities in my existence in spite of each thing. by some potential, those issues weren't so significant anymore, simply by fact my son exchange into my priority in existence & now that he's long gone, I merely take it an afternoon at a time & have discovered to not get upset over the small stuff in existence anymore.
2016-10-19 23:55:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Took the one person that ever understood me for granted... My Mom. She was my best friend and soulmate. She died 11 months ago suddenly overnight. Now ill never get the chance to say im sorry. Even though i learned not to take anyone for granted.. it doesnt help the pain get any less.
2007-01-14 15:04:09 · answer #5 · answered by N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I treated a loved one terrible, constantly with a attitude and disrespect, said terrible things, those were the last things i ever said to my mom, then she suddenly died, and i never had a chance to tell her any thing else, or say sorry.
2007-01-14 14:41:06 · answer #6 · answered by froglegspete 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always watch out for the other guy ,she ran stop sign and hit me ,no one hurt , JUST SCARED THE HECK OUT OF ME and totaled my car,MY FIRST ACCIDENT TOO.,but I TRY TO BE MORE CARE FULL NOW....
2007-01-14 14:48:06 · answer #7 · answered by deedee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I learned that you can't fully trust anyone but yourself.
2007-01-14 14:59:04 · answer #8 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
repetition after failure
2007-01-14 14:50:34 · answer #9 · answered by Summer O 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋