I have lost 50 pounds in the last year. I have worked very hard. I have not got comment from him. Not you look good or wow honey your doing great. Everywhere i go people notice how hard i have worked and how good i look but not the most important man in my life. How do you make him understand that i need him to say it.
2007-01-14 14:31:07 · 13 answers · asked by diana b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
does your husband have low self esteem? Sounds like maybe,he notices, but because you look so much better now, hes scared and dont want to show you that. Congrats.
2007-01-14 14:43:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I would like to congratulate you on your hard work. That is awesome. The other thing is what is your relationship like otherwise. If he is just straight up a jerk, then unfortunately that is propably the problem. However, if your relationship is fine, and he is genuinly a great guy then that is propably your answer as well. I'll give you an example. My best friend in high school lost like 30 or 40 pounds. We saw each other everyday. Seeing her everyday made me not notice. Not because I wasn't pround of her, but because I loved her for who she was. Not what she looked like. Therefore her weight was never an issue with me being her friend so it wasn't notice. Not noticed in a good way. When I later looked at a year book form the year before I was like, "Oh my gosh! I didn't realized you lost a lot of weight." I then congratulated her. Try pulling out an old pic. So he can see the difference.
2007-01-14 14:48:46 · answer #2 · answered by mccmb02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's insecure and jealous. I think you did great. You have worked very hard and deserved it. Now you just continue to do what you've been doing.Do not hope that he would compliment you. Just enjoy the compliments from others.Make sure you dress up nicely everytime,flaunt it. He noticed alright but does not want to give you the satisfaction of knowing he does. He will NEVER say it.So act as if he is invisible too!Enjoy your new and beautiful self! Let him hear others compliment you or let others tell him (when you are not around) how great and his wife looks!Best of all always tell yourself that you are working hard to get fit and to keep it this way FOR YOURSELF!!This is where the greatest satisfaction lie. Not in all the compliments from others (though it's nice and encouraging) and never from your nearest and dearest. Don't pine over it. Use the energy to look great instead.Don't try to make him understand. It's too much work! Once again, keep up the good work!It's hard, I know, trust me!!Give yourself a pat on the back! Pat,pat!
2007-01-14 15:08:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on losing 50 lbs. Your husband probably feels a little threatened to tell you or maybe since he is with you everyday he really doesn't notice it. It was funny because I told my husband I was going to get my hair done yesterday I had to cancel the appt because my son had to go to the doctor. I come in and ask my husband what he thinks about my hair and he told me to turn on the light so he can see it lol. He told me wow she does do a nice job it looks good lol. Your husband is not going to wow you like someone you havent seen in a long time.
2007-01-14 16:58:17 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first question is Is he normally a verbal person? Does he compliment you reguarly? Also, How is your relationship besides this problem? Are the two of you really close? If you are really close and can talk about things, then i think that you should ask him why he has not said anything. Tell him that you feel invisible, that all your efforts for loosing weight dont seem to matter to him.. You didnt say if you have tried to talk to him in your question... But i think its worth it to try to talk to him about it. Its important to you and i think if he sees that, then he may come around. Show him how much it means to you.... I think that it is AWESOME that you lost 50 pounds, that is a BIG accomplishment!! You should be proud of yourself...... Goodluck.... :-)
2007-01-14 14:43:47 · answer #5 · answered by tabitha h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men just don't notice weight. I've lost and gained large amounts of weight with my boyfriend and he has never been able to tell. I just start dropping hints after I lose weight. "Do you like this dress? It's a size 12. I was a size 14." He'll know you want him to comment.
2007-01-14 15:05:58 · answer #6 · answered by stampadhesive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be open with him and tell him how you feel.... This is the best way to go about it.... Is he good at communicating his feelings with you??? Complement him on things and maybe he will start complimenting you! Hope this helps some:) Congrats to you for losing that much weight... That is great!!!!
2007-01-14 14:37:51 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame on him that is not very nice of him. Let him know that you have worked very hard at losing weight for whatever reason and that he is being a jerk not to notice.
2007-01-15 20:38:49 · answer #8 · answered by divingonthemuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him, say I have worked hard to get in shape and be sexy for you, the least you could do is tell me,
2007-01-14 14:47:03 · answer #9 · answered by rich2481 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I HATE TO BE THE ***** HERE, BUT MAYBE HE DOESN'T SAY IT BECAUSE HE DOESN'T NOTICE YOU ANYMORE.
GO GET SOME EXPENSIVE SEXY LINGERIE. MAYBE THEN HE'LL NOTICE.
2007-01-14 14:41:04 · answer #10 · answered by KAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋