is there something wrong with me?guys only pls...?
im 20 years old and already have a stable job in a known company here in our place, tall, sexy, people would say im good looking and smart. i have lots of friends becoz they say im kind, sweet and have a sense of humor. our neighbors respects me and adores me for what i am now (successful and kind yet young).
but the problem is, i still dont have a bf!!! is there something wrong with me or is it with the guys? sure i have suitors, but i dont like neither one of them so i turned them down. and if i like some guy, its either they have a gf or ignore me.
could you please answer me guys?
2007-01-14 14:30:49 · 7 answers · asked by ---q.ty pie--- 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have a female friend that sounds a lot like you. She is very cute, and an awesome person, but she has a really hard time when it comes to guys (which totally confuses her guy friends). I think a big problem w/ her is that she doesn't have a lot of self-confidence. That is a huge thing, do you think you may have a problem w/ that? Not only will a guy not be so attracted to a girl who doesn't seem too confident (aka sexy), she may even sabotage her situation w/ a guy. If she doesn't even like herself, she can't expect too many guys to like her, and she may ruin a perfect situation w/ a guy so that she won't end up being hurt or vulnerable w/ him. It doesn't really sound like that is the biggest problem from your description of yourself, so it may be other things. It could be that most guys are intimidated by a good-looking, successful, sweet, funny girl. He may never think he has a chance so he could just forget about her. I'm sure if you do have guys that like you now as you are, you will always have that (as long as you stay that way). Maybe you just have to wait for him, or even lower your own standards. I wouldn't look so much outside for your answer, but more inside. Look at yourself, examine who you are, and then imagine you are your friend and you're giving yourself advice. It's a lot easier to understand something like this from an outsiders perspective. Put yourself in the position of one of your friends who may answer this for you. Hope this helps in any way.
2007-01-14 14:57:22 · answer #1 · answered by collective224 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's anything "wrong" at all. You just haven't met the right person. It's said that you if you go out on twenty dates, each with a different person, you likely find one person who is compatable with you.
I would advise you to try to meet as many people as possible, in work, church, and interest groups or clubs. Also try to meet the friends of your friends to expand your circle of contacts.
Are you still living with your parents? You will meet more people your age if you live in a group house with other single people, and it's not that expensive.
Finally, consider what you want in a bf and try to get involved in activities where you might meet him - eg athletic, >gym, biking club, running club; -artistic> chorus, choir, little theater; nerdy > computer store, video production tech, ham radio club, etc.
Finally, be sure that being sweet is not the same as being submissive and non-assertive.
Good luck.
2007-01-15 01:20:22 · answer #2 · answered by VK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmm...I know you said guys only...but have you thought about the possibility that you might be a lesbian???? I don't mean it as an insult..it's just that you sound like you shuold def have a bf by now if you are how you say you are....and you said that you didn't like your suitors....do you know why you don't like them???? ask yourself that...and then ask yourself if maybe the reason is that you're just not attracted to guys...if that's not it...then the guys are just assholes and they don't deserve you, you don't like them because they're not your type, or you just think that no guy will ever live up to your standards....but I wish you the best and hope you get a bf soon or if not..then just give it time....or stop being in denial and get yourself a gf....
2007-01-14 14:47:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to sound rude, but I believe in being straight forward. You need to stop acting so desperate. It's a turn off to either sex. Gain some self confidence, and expand your horizons. Take up a new hobby in a group setting. You'll start to attract more guys when you are just being yourself, and not seeming too interested in the whole "dating scene".
Best of luck
2007-01-14 15:07:05 · answer #4 · answered by mike w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chill, your only 20. If you Quit looking for a b/f suddnly youll find that guys will be courious and then you can let them get to know you. Also dont be too judgmental until you have time to get to know a person,they might be different in a one on one situation. Hope this helps some.
2007-01-14 14:43:56 · answer #5 · answered by ezrider 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I shop my ideals as something very own and that i don't argue approximately it with people who have confidence in different religions. i'm christian and that i spotted that faith impacts the way infants are raised(that's a controversy of values).as an occasion, one faith teaches human beings to tension themselves on others by violence.yet another faith teaches human beings to love and forgive acquaintances and enemies. i think of christianity facilitates me to stay my existence the terrific i'm able to in spite of each and all of the hindrances(faith , wish and persistence help alot)
2016-10-07 04:16:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-14 14:40:41 · answer #7 · answered by Reaper G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋