My ex boyfriend has a really big alcohol and cheating problem.Weve been together 7 yrs and share a son together.I know he loves me as much as i love him.I can see it in his eyes.But its lieka sickness to him to drink and cheat.We just recently broke up cuz of his problem.How can i help him?
2007-01-14 14:23:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
there is something going on the inside...the root of the problem...that is causing him to turn to alcohol and women to make him feel better...then afterward...he feels worse...it is like a spiders web, once you are caught the more you try to free yourself the harder it is to move...but there is hope...the alcohol and cheating are just the fruits being produced from the true root within...you must address the root and not the fruit that is being produced from it...pray for him and believe God for the answer..and He will answer you and show you great and mighty things which you know not...
2007-01-14 14:42:38 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want an honest answer the only person that can HELP HIM is "HIMSELF" he should be willing to give-up drinking and cheating first ,then the rest will follow. If he really loves you and if he really values the relationship and the family then he should NOT be doing what he is doing (drinking and cheating) The only way that you can help him is after he sobers himself up and after he stop cheating... then you can emotionally give support as wife but if he will be drunk and will be going around cheating how could you get in the picture??? He has to accept the fact that he has a problem and the only one that can help him is himself...No one can help him, if he does not give this up first. not you and not anyone else..just he and himself... I have been through this and i do believe that experience is the best teacher.. It will only occur over and over again. He would change but he would be the same again...and if that happens the choice will be at your side either to accept him the way he is or to let go of him. OR you will have a miserable life ahead if you don't decide if you reach that point... take care and hope works for the better...
2007-01-14 22:46:55 · answer #2 · answered by pinky c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help him. Only he can help himself by admitting he has a problem. When he does, then will he get the help he needs. This is bigger than what you can do for him. If you love him and want to stand by him, be prepared for a lot of hurt. Or, you can stay separated until he seeks treatment.
2007-01-14 22:29:00 · answer #3 · answered by judirose2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave him now. His problems will only get worse with time . Next he will start beating you because you don't understand his problems in life. He has probably already said, I can stop at any time. He is full of crap. Leave while you still have a soul.
2007-01-14 22:31:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage him to seek professional help for the sake of his son. You can't help him with this problem. It's bigger than you.
2007-01-14 22:27:35 · answer #5 · answered by NYGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea aids is a sickness...so if i was you to help him is to not have sex with him....if i was you i would stay alive to raise his child for him..that is helping him...at least one person will live to see him grow up.....you be a parent and take care of your son...that is all you can do....i'm sorry you have to raise your child alone...good luck...
2007-01-14 22:30:00 · answer #6 · answered by hatchetmistress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help him; he has to want it enough to help himself. I would not get back with him; for your son's sake.
2007-01-14 22:36:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you can love someone but not with that someone, if he wont get help your best bet is to make your self happy,, not make your self co-dependant on him,
2007-01-14 22:27:19 · answer #8 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋