a few years ago i was very mean to a girlfriend of mine because i thought she was stabbing me in the back - i was being hypervigilant and found out later that she was not but in the meantime did something terrible to her to try and catch her in a lie - i have since gotten therapy and have realized that i was just being hypervigilant ..my friend and i are we are now very close but during this time i told another friend what i had done... my friend whom i trust told me she would never tell anyone what i did to my other friend but now i feel she is getting jealous of my relationship with the friend i betrayed...my question does it sound like i am being hypervigilant again ? should i confront the friend and just tell her hey i am very close to this other girl as well and i want to make sure that what i did to her never comes out ...i made a terrible mistake..and i regret it i have even thought about going to confession about it .i am in therapy over what i did ..should i let it go ?
2007-01-14 14:19:03 · 3 answers · asked by crap 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't worry about things like this.
Just go with the flow.
If you are wondering about your friends talk to them
2007-01-14 14:24:48 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I'm really happy for you that you're trying to get help in the matter. I realize you were the one who stabbed this friend in the back as well as assuming the worst about her.
My advice? Sit these friends down and chat honestly and openly! I know it sounds like obvious and impossible advice but it's the only way.
That or you could just realize that your friends jealousy is their deal, not yours, and you shouldn't be the one worrying over it.
Just talk honestly and be completely honest!
Remember, lies and gossip and backstabbing only make it worse and then NO ONE wants to be your friend!!
2007-01-14 14:31:51 · answer #2 · answered by Lena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋