What do you do when you want to gain confidence and have a better personality so people can start appreciating you. For me, I truly hate my self for the things I've done in the past. Now I want to change myself for the better! Any ideas?
2007-01-14 14:18:17 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
What do you do when you want to gain confidence and have a better personality so people can start appreciating you. For me, I truly hate my self for the things I've done in the past. Now I want to change myself for the better. I've also been depressed for some odd years now and haven't really spoke out about it.
2007-01-14 14:47:11 · update #1
I've also been depressed for some odd years now and haven't really spoke out about it.
2007-01-14 14:47:29 · update #2
First of all you must believe in yourself! That is VERY important in gaining confidence within yourself. You must feel as though you are as good as anyone else, and just be yourself when talking to others. When other people see that you have confidence within yourself, they will enjoy your company and respect you as a person. If they don't, they are not worth being around anyway! Talk to others as though they were someone you already know and feel comfortable with. Just think there are many people out there that feel just the same way that you do, so just talk about anything that comes to mind or interests you, and don't worry about what they THINK, of you because that only makes you more uncomfortable , and then your right back where you started! Stand up for yourself, and respect your own opinions, you are a good person, so give yourself credit, and good luck!
2007-01-15 05:14:52 · answer #1 · answered by autumn wolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first step to building confidence, in my opinion, is finding out what you truly want. Over the next week, whenever you feel down, depressed, insecure, or frustrated, start making a list of all the things you want. They can be little things, like, "I want a glass of water" or big things, like "I want to ride around the entire world in a hot air baloon." Just write down everything and don't censor yourself. Then after a week, and even throughout the week, look at the list and decide which of those things you can do something about. Then start doing it! Some of the things might require little steps first, but if you really want it, then you can do it. As you start seeing that you can do things that make you happy, your confidence will grow!
As for the depression, I've had that problem for years. Each person needs to find their own way, but I've found that therapy did wonders for me!
2007-01-15 17:12:32 · answer #2 · answered by ~Love~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before anyone else can appreciate you, you have to appreciate yourself. If you know that you want to change (for yourself, not just so others will appreciate you) then there's absolutely nothing to stop you. You simply wake up today and know from within yourself that you truly have changed your attitude and perspective.
If you make a mistake today then don't beat yourself up about it - do what you can to put it right, but if you can't then just remember that tomorrow is a new day and just keep striving. Congratulate yourself for every small goal - and resolving to change what you think is wrong is a massive start!!
2007-01-14 22:49:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get in touch with nature and things that are far removed from society/consumerism.
For me, surfing remote places cleanses my mind and my soul. I also try to help other people, maybe you could see about helping a charity or kids etc.
Try to focus on the things that don't have a price tag on it. I love to go on long walks or ride my bike as much as I can without having to drive to a place. Does it make you a better person? I think it's a start, seems like you need a foundation first and then you can start to help the people who are close to you, i.e. family and then others in need.
2007-01-14 22:23:13 · answer #4 · answered by gotham158 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find strength in spirituality. Find out who you are and what u want and expect out of life... and live with it. If people cant appreciate you for who you are, then you dont need them any way. Dont live your life trying to make other people happy, cause in the end.. You will be the one unhappy. Be realistic and be human. We all make mistakes, admit to them, and move on. Dont, lie, cheat or steal. and if u have to lie just stretch the truth. if u doin what u supposed to do anyway.. u wont have to stretch it even a little. Always do things that in the end, u can still hold your head up high, even if u aint brushed yo teeth in a month and u know your breath smells like u ate a bag of shittles, Hold you head UP! hey... they your teeth... u gotta wear them. Nobody can take them from u.
2007-01-20 23:21:34 · answer #5 · answered by steelababi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you sould set daily or weekly goals for yourself and write them down. The feeling of accomplishing something and crossing them off your list will make you feel good and increase your self-confidence.
If you see your goals written down, you will surely achieve them. Start small like going for a 30 minute walk each day or eating healthy or reaching out to talk to someone new once or twice a week.
2007-01-14 22:22:10 · answer #6 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First know that you want to change!
two... Try things even if you tried them before...
Goals are GREAT!
oh yeah this stuff don't happen over night have pantience
I started off going to Coping.org
Great site that will ask you questions you would of never thought of!
Make a list of things you want to do!!!
43things.com
And for your goals.. Joesgoals.com
Everything here is free!
but remember if you want to change you will have no choice but to WORK your tail off!
I know it sucks when the person next to you just got something for no effort! but your not that person! If you want it you got to work for it! don't wait for the next suprise or hand out I'm sure you'll get one so why wait for it! go make your own!
Sites to help
Soul searching pluse tools for personal growth! = Coping.org
To have fun goals up and comments with encouragement = 43things.com
To reward yourself with a point system = joesgoals.com
Best of luck
2007-01-14 23:27:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - forget the past and make a list of the things you've done to help people, etc. Also - check out the book "Your Best Life Now" by Joel Osteen - chock full of positivity!!!
Jesus wants you to have a life of victory. Ask God for forgiveness and move on - God Bless!!:)
2007-01-14 22:22:50 · answer #8 · answered by j b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you find it too hard to find your weaknesses and fight them, then, it is easier to find your good qualities (you certainly have such) and try to expand them. Try to show more in the areas you are good at. As soon as you find recognition, your self esteem will rise. Needless to say that the best you can do is for you, is to start appreciating yourself. People who know and exercise their good qualities have a wonderful aura and make others appreciate accordingly. So focus on the shiny side of you.
2007-01-15 01:49:13 · answer #9 · answered by Alice in Wonderbra 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start writing in a journal, get self-help books and really stick to a goal of improving yourself. It takes time, patience, dedication and personal reflection but it can be done. Someone very wise told me:
"You get many chances in life to reinvent yourself"
Follow that and trust it!
2007-01-15 09:26:31 · answer #10 · answered by Chelsea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋