I just found out the other day that my best friend is gay. I had strong feelings about all these issues, but now I'm stuck between a rock. I really care about my friend and dont want to lose him, but dont want to abandon my beliefs as well, any advice would be considered and appreciated!
2007-01-14 14:12:02 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well i hate gay people but girls don't mine and neither do gay people. if he is your best friend and you really care about him then you should be his friend (if you want to) nobody cares that you hang out with a homosexual.and by the way at least he wont try to hit on you or treat like crap.gay people are not like that.their clean and have girly clothes and stuff and they don't give a shitt.
2007-01-14 14:24:03 · answer #1 · answered by MARKOS KRUGER 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What do you mean what do you do when you found out your best friend is Gay? If he is as you say Gay, than that is his choice, and if you do not want to be his friend anymore because of it, you were not a friend in the best sense of the word. Because a true friend would stand by his best friend's side, no matter what, and if you are the type of a person that cares more of what would people think if they found out about it, then you never were a loyal friend to begin with. Your friend would be better of without you. I am not a spring chicken as they say, but I know better than to let other people dictate my actions, so it is up to you to decide what to do.
2007-01-14 14:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a best friend that is gay and i just found out about 4 years ago. My mother always said that he was gay but I just did not see it. I love him just the same because just because he sleep with men do not make him less of a man or person....if anything it makes him more of a man because he was not tring to hide it. He never said he was gay but always did say i am looking for a friend. I did know at the time that that mean he was looking for a male friend. Every since then we have been more of friends then even. Gays and single people have more in common then you thing. Truth me.
2007-01-14 15:30:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey he was your friend before you knew he was gay.... he is still the same person he was before you knew he was gay. If you stop being his friend because he is gay then you are not a friend worth having. I am sorry to be so bold.... but that is how I see is. Change the situation...... You were his friend then you found out he was a circus performer..... now you don't want to be his friend.... You were is friend and then you found out he was a foot doctor.... He is still the same person. There is a name for people that see the world like you bigots.
He must love and trust you to open himself up to you like this... Get a clue and BE A FRIEND.
The Romans were christian and they encouraged homosexual relations among the army.... it promoted loyalty and such... so even the Christians got confused about their beliefs
2007-01-14 14:19:38 · answer #4 · answered by the queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am Christian. The Bible teaches that homosexuality is wrong. BUT, If you look in the Bible, the new testament says that there are two commandments that are stronger than all the ones in the Bible:
#1)Love the LordGod with all your heart. 2)Love your neighbor as you love yourself. Your job is to love your friend no matter what. Hopefully, you prayed for your friend and encouraged them before you found this out. Why should that change? I am sure your friend knows how you feel about homosexuality.
Your job is to continue to pray that the light of the gospel will shine forth in your friend's heart and that your friend will know God's love in a real way.
If someone treats you funny because you have a friend that is gay and they are a Christian, then they don't know what Christ's love was about. He spent time encouraging sinners. How can they know about Him if we run away when we see their sin?!? All sin, no one exempt. God sees no sin as higher than another.
You be a friend to your friend, you hear me?
2007-01-14 14:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by Jaedyn=God has heard 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now I do not know your religious background, but If I was in your shoes I would have to say it woudl be an akward situation. I have been a christian for the past four years and I must say that there are many people in my school who are "gay"/"sick". I personally belive that everyone falls of the wagon. The only way to get them back on is through the word of jesus christ our savior. You need to talk to this man and tell him how you fell, tell him your belifes, be his friend, and just be there for him. The best thing you could do would be to lead by example.
Goodluck and God Bless
2007-01-14 14:29:48 · answer #6 · answered by brettmhannan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the issue? He's gay, so what? He was your friend before...he's still the same person you knew. He can't help being gay any more than you can help being female. He was born that way...it would be unfair and cruel to punish him for something he has no control over.
I have some wonderful gay friends...their personal sex lives are their own business and have no affect on the kind of person they are...judge people on who they are inside (kind and loving or cruel and deceitful), not who they are intimate with.
2007-01-14 14:19:57 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept it and move on with your life!
A gay person cannot be straight anymore than a straight person can be gay!!! We are what we are!
Be happy that you have someone you can call a "Best Friend". All to many of us do not have a best friend.
I used to be very much against the gay community. It was my religous belief! While I still do not agree with gays, I have come to accept them! They are no different than anyone else. We are all human.
Know that what goes around, comes around! Learn to accept people for who they are.
IMHO,
The Ol' Sasquatch Ü
2007-01-14 14:28:10 · answer #8 · answered by Ol' Sasquatch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shoud not treat you friend any differently than you have in the past. A persons sexual preferences are their private issue. They are no less or no more of a human being whether they are gay or not.
Stand by them. You should not abandon this friendship over something like this. They are your friend for other reasons obviously than their sexual preference.
Keep your friendship. Friends are worth it!
2007-01-14 14:18:02 · answer #9 · answered by Coda2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you call yourself his best friend then you need to do what a best friend does and that is support. don't pass judgement you can have your beliefs. You are who you are and he is who he is just love him and be there for him he hasn't changed, he is still the same person just his feelings are for the same sex. This is a very important time for him and you been there I'm sure he will appreciate it.
2007-01-14 14:19:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋