My girlfriend is hella afraid I'll reject her just like her othrer ex's. I know I sure as hell won't. I love her infinity guys, it's not gonna happen. I've told her 1,ooo times I won't, but it still scares her, we've been going out since september, how can I convince Her I won't. Seriously I LOVE her I'll do anything to prove to her I won't
2007-01-14 13:46:33 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
yeah I think she has a low self esteem and hey guys. I can't make her dinner. I'm only 15 now, I'll save that for later. trust me when we are older......I'm taking her out every week! and there will be great sex....(smirks) now thats a promise!
2007-01-14 14:02:46 · update #1
grlgnuis
Hey ....well she's like my life. I only wanna make her happy, my happyness comes second. I wi;; try what you said. I hope it can help. Cause I really love her. and I want her to be reallly happy.
2007-01-14 14:05:42 · update #2
Did she do something to make you think that you'll leave her and Do she have low-self esteem or something?
2007-01-14 13:52:48 · answer #1 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every girl you date has 10 guys before you who have screwed her over in some fashion or another.
Its a fact of life. Its sad but true.
You've only been together for 6 months- that's not a very long time in the big picture.
Take everything one day at a time. Understand that your girlfriend is dealing with the rejection and pain her ex's have caused her. You have to be patient and understand that she's scared to become too close to you or you'll hurt her, too.
Be patient and caring and TALK to her in an open conversation. "I understand you've been hurt before. I'd like you to give me a chance to show you that I'm not going to be one of those guys who hurts you."
And just let it work at her pace.
2007-01-14 22:07:44 · answer #2 · answered by kerrisonr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, honey. . .
You have a person who is majorly lacking in self-esteem on your hands.
Unfortunately I doubt there is anything you can say or do to convince her of your devotion.
She has a self-fulfilling negative prophecy thing going on.
She cries and frets about how one day you will leave her until she eventually drives you so crazy that you do just that.
So knowing this you can go on loving her and just let this continuous haranguing roll off your back.
Or you can stop her each time she starts by taking a firm hand and say you have no history with me that supports this caterwauling so just stop it because I am not going to respond to anymore stuff-n-nonsense.
That may sound a bit harsh but trust me I have been down this road.
To be honest I got tired of dealing with such an emotionally damaged person (there were other things going on, problems we had) so I finally broke up with her.
I knew she would never be happy. . .not really.
So I chose to be happy for myself.
2007-01-14 22:02:02 · answer #3 · answered by octopussy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try finding the root of her insecurity about your relationship and work on that. If you're having problems working on the issue/issues, maybe try to find some professional help? You might be able to find some form of free help through the GLBT channels...
2007-01-15 04:12:40 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her gifts, keep telling her that you love her, make her dinner, go to a photographer and get pictures of the two of you. Notice if she changes n e thing of her appearance at all.
2007-01-14 21:53:38 · answer #5 · answered by Bryan 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just look her square in the eye and remind her you love her. of course, she's nervous, she was rejected!! no one wants that! just be reassuring, she'll ease down once she feels your truthfulness
2007-01-14 21:53:07 · answer #6 · answered by dƒ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋