IS My husband GAY?

Question

I have a husband who is a marine, and i am worried that he is gay. i notice my husband was always going on gay dating sites. I mean i know it was wrong for looking at his email but he left himself logged on and i just needed to know. I lloked at his profile and he had 50 guys saved and he said he was looking for a man for 1 on 1 sex. Recently he dosn't want to kiss me or spend time with me. We have two lovely boys together. And it seems like he never wants to have sex, and when we do he acts like it kills him, and he never initates sex. I am worried that are marriage is just a cover up for him to be a marine, because you are not allowed to be gay. ANY ADVICE?

Answer 1

Girl, instead of typing this question you need to be typing up a divorce decree. Your husband is so gay. Why in the white sands of Africa is he looking up gay men on the internet seeking one on one sex encounter. He may be your husband but if he's had 50 men as sexual prospects how many do you think he's slept with? Be careful don't have sex with him.

Answer 2

I would like to first off say that I'm so sorry. I think you know the answer to your question. It is now just a matter of facing what you know already in your heart. Have you asked him about it? If not you might want to sit down with him and in a NON confrontational way ask him. DO NOT TELL HIM YOU FOUND HIS EMAILS. You do not want him to set it up where everything deletes automatically. If he comes up with some lame excuse and you decide to stay you will need some way to keep an eye on him untill you are able to see the situation for what it is. If he says no then you want to be able to keep a tab on things. Let's face it sweetie...you don't want him bringing home some funk to you. A good book for you to read is On The Down Low. The authors last name is King. READ IT. DO NOT FEEL BAD FOR GOING INTO HIS EMAIL. God gives us these intuitions for a reason. Unfortunately a lot of women don't use it and later on wish they did. Please feel free to respond or email me if you need to talk.

Answer 3

I think you should confront your husband. Tell him exactly what you feel about his "strange" behavior. You want the truth, you actually need the truth in order to bring closure. You don't want to live another minute in doubt or fearful of hearing your husband say something that will turn your entire life around, but in truth knowing he is homosexual is far better than not knowing for certain. And the best part about confronting him is--not one of you will be free, but both of you.

If the explanation that he has given you doesn't "sound right" then you should tell him this as well. He knows you're no fool. He knows that you're a smart woman, and you can't be mislead unless you choose to be mislead. And if you don't confront him--
then you are choosing to remain in the dark, and be mislead.

Answer 4

He is gay and you are only the cover up until he comes out full blown out of the closet. Talk to him and maybe he can open up if he realizes that you are willing to let him be himself and still be a Daddy for the children. Eventually you both can divorce and you can re-marry or have your needs met by someone else (selectively). There are worst things in life than this one.

Answer 5

Oh my that must be horrible. Dont be in denial. Leave while you can and try to look at things from a brighter side. Now you guys can be the best of friends and he can give you fashion advice. And I know its hard but you should support him, Im sure he needs it. And at least he tried.

Answer 6

Get away and get the boys away, I am not against any gay men or women, but he is not a person who can be trusted. I would trust him if he just came and told me he was gay, but doing it this way is very scary:(

Answer 7

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Answer 8

He's gay. Straight up. No pun intended.

Answer 9

IS My husband GAY?

Answer 10

I think he's gay actually it seems pretty obvious.