my mom is white and my dad is Mexican my mom dosen't like African Americans and i don't no why she wont let me date black people. i need to know what can i do an what should i do?
2007-01-14 13:37:29 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
that is a tough one..It is not good to be predjudice. It would be hard on you when you got older and had children if you fell inlove with anyone..no matter what race they are... if you family is against it. Mixed races have an even tougher time because of narrow minded people.
We all need to learn to judge people by their actions NOT the color of their skin.
Only you can decide what you want to do. You my end out deiciding between a guy and your family... I know by experience I should have chosen family.. my ex is an ex and my family is still my family but I live soooo far away from them now.
Good luck with your decision.
2007-01-14 13:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by sweetsal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There was an interesting article that I read recently telling how the Mexicans and Afican Americans are programmed to not like each other. How sad. But we must not let these racists behaviors continue. How do we change things? Don't become like them. I don't know how old you are, so you may have to follow the rules of the home, which is only fair. When you get out on your own, you can date, like, have friendships and marry/not marry whomever you want. Until then, please follow your parent's rules, simply because they are your parents. You don't have to agree with them, just honor them until on your own.
When I was in college, my parents said I could bring my boyfriend home for the holidays. When we walked down the sidewalk, and up onto the porch, my mom/dad insisted he not come any further. Why? He was Hawaiian, with a dark skin. My parents, without my realizing it, were racist. They didn't want me to have black children...their reasoning. Sad, isn't it? This man is now a minister, a wonderful husband and father to a wonderful woman; I missed out. I married a white man, someone my mom/dad accepted, and he ended up being abusive and a womanizer/alcoholic. The moral: wait it out, but make no waves until you are old enough to make your own choices. In the meantime, love everyone in a friendly way, not judging by anything other than how they treat you. Time is on your side; learn from this, and have a great life.
As an aside, my daughter married a Mexican and when he died, married a man from Puerto Rico. My son married a Hawaiian (ironic, huh? In our family, we see not the skin, but the heart.
2007-01-14 13:48:09 · answer #2 · answered by dutchlady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all your parents are racists u must accept that u must not be like them date who u want ur parents are not suppose to be in control of your first ask your mom what is wrong with black people and y can't u date them if she does not give an answer tha makes sense 2 u ?what do u do now that answer is up 2 u . and a little advice from the west side . if u still living in their house damn u gots 2 obey them but remember this just because ur parents do not like black people does not mean u can't u have the answers 2 all ur questions just sit down and think
2007-01-14 13:46:05 · answer #3 · answered by SkydraXL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you are a teenager, find something else to occupy your mind besides dating anyone. You will have time enough to date, and when you start dating, make sure you get to know the person before committing yourself to anyone. make sure you're on the same page mind, body, and spiritually. You have plenty of time to choose a man when you finish college and start your career. Don't tie your young life up on what society is doing, dare to be different. Don't be a follower, there are already enough of them. Enjoy your life; do fun and beautiful things so that you may have pleasant memories. With love!
2007-01-14 14:07:41 · answer #4 · answered by paris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is such racial tension right now between Hispanics and African Americans. e.g. California
It is really important to have the support of your family when you are still living with them. When you are in a position to make your own decisions w/o their consent then you may date whom ever you would like. If you should meet your mate during that time no matter what ethnicity they may be. You can make your stand. Until then it is best if you just obey your parent's rules even if you don't agree with them.
2007-01-14 13:44:24 · answer #5 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one because if you live with your parents still then you are stuck with their rules. However, that doesn't make it right. If your mom is white and your dad is Mexican then she should be the last person to tell someone who shouldn't be dating outside of their race.
Unfortunately there are too many people in this world that see someone's race before they see who they truly are. Looks like you're not one of them so you should be proud of yourself. Maybe talk to her about it some more. If you like someone then tell her about him/her and why you like them.
2007-01-14 13:43:38 · answer #6 · answered by Majesty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should date whom ever you choose. Just don't go about it in a disrespectful way. Make sure the african american male you choose is always respectful during any interactions with your mother(he should know this anyway):is polite when he request you for a phone conversation,make sure that he doesn't call too late, etc. I'm sure that as long as he treats and respects you, your mother will come around. Allow her to watch and learn.
2007-01-14 13:47:15 · answer #7 · answered by ak8032704 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with gblue52. If you really want to be cheated on and dogged out then go ahead and try. I have a lot of black friends and all they care about is hitting it for a while and quitting it. They are definitley not the loyal type! Confusio has her own oppinion but the child's mother makes the rules and it is her right as a mother give her opinion to her own daughter.
2007-01-14 13:57:29 · answer #8 · answered by Michael C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would ask both parents about their reason for not letting you date black people. A couple has plenty of problems in a relationship to add additional problems with other people that have very different culture. Remember that both your parents want the best for you so ask WHY??
2007-01-14 13:48:33 · answer #9 · answered by Abby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The chances of you living happily ever after with a teenage crush are slim to none, so its really not worth all the drama with your mom. Wait until you get grown and date whoever you want. She may be ignorant, but where else will ou stay.
2007-01-14 13:42:59 · answer #10 · answered by act as if 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋