I am 27wks pregnant. My fiance and i still have a great sex life - until 3 nights ago. During the "act" our baby started kicking - not little kicks but really hard jabs that my fiance could feel clearly. It completely freaked him out - he has felt baby kick many times but never during intercourse. Logically he "knows" baby wasn't kicking in response to being hurt or anything but he is still wary. He stopped mid-act and hasn't wanted intercourse since (although he's fine with foreplay).
What can i do to reassure him that its fine to continue to have sex? I've directed him to the baby books where it says its fine but he's still not convinced. He told me that perhaps we shouldn't have actual intercourse until after baby is born... my libido is sky high and if his only reason is that he doesn't want to "hurt" baby then that is NOT an option!! lol.
Thanks
2007-01-14 13:32:50 · 13 answers · asked by Smiley One 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Sometimes you have to wait it out... Lol, someone made a crass joke about getting head from the baby while we were having sex to my boyfriend when he was on the internet, and it took him 2 1/2 weeks to get over it. Or you could just get him really turned on and see what happens. Maybe a good anatomy lesson, with a visual aid of a woman's anatomy will help him get over it. Take him to the doctor w/ you at your next prenatal appointment and start the conversation by asking your doctor, he may just need to hear it out loud from someone other than you ;) Good luck and enjoy your little one when s/he arrives!
2007-01-14 13:42:57 · answer #1 · answered by heartlostangel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first husband went through the same thing. Baby kicked him at the worst possible time. I tried to reassure him but he wouldn't listen.
I went to my mother for advice and she said that the same thing happened with her and my dad.. it didn't bother him too much he told her, "If something grabs me, we're not doing this anymore until he's out of there!" So this is quite common and a very normal reaction.
He'll come around, especially with your libido being in high gear.. he won't be able to resist you for too long.
2007-01-14 14:01:16 · answer #2 · answered by sassydontpm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Nothing like feeling there's another person right there with you! This probably won't be the last incidence of what I used to call "childiss interuptus" either! Give him a few days, and maybe start with foreplay again and see how far things go. Good luck!
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2016-10-07 04:10:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was that way with our 1st child. He was scared he would hurt the baby. Nevermind that the doctor himself said it was fine. I think they fear that the baby somehow knows what is going on and they will hold it against them or something. I never did convince him otherwise so I wish you all the luck. Best of luck with the baby.
2007-01-14 13:40:22 · answer #5 · answered by Laura A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your doctor has given you reason NOT to have sex. You are fine. My sex drive was SKY HIGH when I was pregnant. Have him go to your next OB appointment with you so that he can ask the doctor himself.
Good luck and Congrats!
2007-01-14 13:39:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let the doctor tell him was pr and my baby would ball up and my husband feared the he would hurt the baby took him to the Dr the Dr told him it was fine the more sex the better for the baby
2007-01-14 13:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by janet s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, wish that were my bfs only problem! he's taken 2 going n gettn drunk everynight lately. ANYWAYZ, umm..if u keep making him read things like ur doing, get him 2 tlk 2 ur midwife abt it, and mayb other dads? i kno its a bit hard 2 bring up (excuse the pun..lol culdn't help it, horny as hell n no man around 2 help me out, but im sure u dnt wana kno!) but..just gotta b dun! good luck tho, hope he..sorts his noggin out quickly enuf 2 satisfy ur libdo...if not, head 2 Ann Summers n get a Rampent Rabbit!!
2007-01-14 13:42:48 · answer #8 · answered by evilbunnyhahaha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try it from behind (aka "doggie style"). Not usually a favorite position, but I found that not only is it comfortable while pregnant, it kind of gets his mind off the baby and onto more important things........good luck!
2007-01-14 13:41:54 · answer #9 · answered by ShellyLynn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh boy, lol--Im due anyday and we havent had sex since August--there was just no assuring him that everything was still 'ok' & that baby would be ok if we had sex & she wouldnt feel a thing.
good luck! If you find an answer--let me know, lol
2007-01-14 13:40:29 · answer #10 · answered by Shellberry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋