I'm just kind of confused. Because My mom always tells me that the happiest thing in a woman's life is to be loved by a person she likes to be with. Of course I love that person back, but not as much as he does to be. If I am attracted to other boys, should I still marry someone who loves me? or someone I love?
2007-01-14 13:09:16 · 37 answers · asked by love2you 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They need to fit both criteria or you're in for trouble down the road...
2007-01-14 13:12:09 · answer #1 · answered by Jason 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please do yourself a favor and don't get married yet! Not to anyone! It's not that you are not mature enough, it's that you are not sure enough! There is never a deadline in a perspective marriage! You need to be absolutely sure. If you marry a guy you like and that worships the ground you walk on, but still have others that like you but, you have stronger feelings for them, you will fail in the relationships. All of these scenarios! Wait till you love the guy and he loves you! There is nothing on earth that is so important to make such a bad decision, only because you feel a decision needs to be made now.
2007-01-14 13:30:56 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better to marry w/ the person you love and love you as well, cause if only one of you loves the other, then there will be a big problem. It is harder to marry someone you don't love, you will not be happy, there is always an empty feeling inside your heart. there will always questions, running through your head. If you deceided to marry the one who loves you more.....then you should let go of your love for the other guy. You must learn to realize that sometimes we loved the wronged person. Give someone other chance, and give yourself a chance to be loved.
2007-01-14 13:23:44 · answer #3 · answered by Nanshi M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should marry someone that loves you as much as you love him. Marriage is an equal partnership and I believe everything should be equal and on the same playing field. You want to be happy and loved but if you don't love him you won't accept what he is giving you for what it is worth and you will make him feel inadequate because you will be shutting him out. This will only lead to problems and possibly a divorce. Marry someone that you can see yourself waking up to every morning in his arms and being satisfied with that.
2007-01-14 13:17:17 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Princess ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you have to do is marry with someone you love.
Cuz in life you need a partner that match with you.
I'm not saying that the person who loves you isn't match with you,
but if you got a problem when you marry him, then you will say:
"This is because of him, this isn't my fault. Whereas I don't love
him neither."
Then every time you get problem you will always blame him.
But if you marry with someone you love, you won't do that.
You will think that this is the process for both of you to try to understand each other and support each other.
That is because you love him so you're not blame him for something happen.
Whereas, you will be happier if you live with someone you love than someone you're not because you don't have to learn to love him, cause you already did..
2007-01-14 13:32:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's easy. Marry someone that ADORES you. My mom told me the same thing at a young age. And I must admit that I blew it off. But I quickly leanred that the woman who loves a man who doesn't love her is sometimes a very lonely and depressed woman. But the woman that gives herself to the man who adores her is a very satisfied woman. It sounds crazy, but if a man treats you like gold, love will surely surface. But the woman that marries the man that never loved her will be filled hate and resentment for him. I too struggled with wierd feelings of attraction to other men...but I think that is very normal.. As long as you make sure to keep your distance and keep your motives pure, you've got nithing to worry about.
2007-01-14 13:18:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds kind of childish, their are a lot of attractive people in the would and you and your partner may be attracted to other people and people who act on it are the ones who end up cheating and end up being hurt and hurting others. I too do believe it's about my happiness and I want to love someone who loves me back, but it takes so much more to be in a happy healthy relationship. You too need to talk and see where you really are, do you really want to be with him and fight the normal temtations of the world. It is a lot of work but if you love that person you would want to work to be commited.
2007-01-14 13:26:56 · answer #7 · answered by Smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think even asking if you should marry someone is like answering your own question. If you were sure, you wouldn't have to ask. Reading suggestion: Iyanla VanZant "In The Meantime". Briefly, maybe you need to step back and wait for Mr. Right.
2007-01-14 13:22:16 · answer #8 · answered by NaturalMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love has to go both ways. In time things change a little and then change back, so you have to start with a strong love for one another.
2007-01-14 13:13:39 · answer #9 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is like a scale. The amount that place on it can be greater on one-side and lesser on the other. Love is love. One may love a person greater than the other, however it doesnt take away from true love.
2007-01-14 13:15:57 · answer #10 · answered by Pro-X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guessed you should marry someone whom you love even though he doesn't love you that much. Nothing is more beautiful than to be with the man you love.
2007-01-14 13:53:15 · answer #11 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋