I'm a fifteen yeald old guy and the other day, my stepdad asked me if I wanted to watch a porno movie with him. I guess I was curious so I said yes. I got a hard on watching and he reached for my thing. I was startled and pushed him but he had a firm grip and eventually came. It's hard to express this, but the stimulus felt good to a certain extent on the moment but now I'm disgusted. I don't know if I should talk about this situation with somebody or just let it go. I sure will not do this again.
2007-01-14 12:46:38 · 24 answers · asked by Keno 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
I would say yes, you should report him, firstly to your mother, she surley wouldnt want to be with a guy like that.. I think you should seek councelling. I think he is a pervert. He obviously planned this out. I feel very sorry for you. you are a minor, so take it to the police, you can be confidential, it doesnt matter whether or not you were comfortable with it at the time, he's wrong and your a minor. Good Luck.
2007-01-14 12:58:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should report him. The confusion you feel is exactly what these perverts want for you to feel. The fact that it felt physically good, doesn´t mean that you liked and accepted or were comfortable with the whole situation.
Trust me, if you don´t report him, it´ll get worse. he won´t stop and will take your silence as a kind of go ahead next time. Talk to a person you trust, a school teacher, a pastor, a counselor or even a friend´s parents. Good luck and take care of yourself.
2007-01-14 22:18:43 · answer #2 · answered by No se 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't be embarrassed about it, you were aroused already, so touch would have made it worse. Fear, nervousness and panic are all "stimulating" to your body, not physiologically all that different than sexual arousal. The reaction of it "feeling good to a point" is not always in your control. ESPECIALLY if you're 15!
Secondly, he exposed you to pornography, which you might have watched before, but that's different then him giving it to you. Inappropriate. Watching porn with a minor which is going to cause arousal in both parties is inappropriate as this is not a state to be in around each other. He crossed the line and violated you also inappropriate.
Report him right away. If you enjoyed any part of it, agreed to any part of it or any thing else does not matter. Report him.
2007-01-14 21:06:14 · answer #3 · answered by Noota Oolah 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you went through that. And yes this is sexual abuse and you do need to report this both to your mother and school counselor. I was abused once and the longer I waited the more thoughts came to my mind that it was my imagination or no one would believe me and several other thoughts as well. The longer you wait the worse you are going to feel about yourself and step-dad. I understand the nervousness. Just pray to God first and He will give you the strength you need. And He will get you through this. Just trust Him. I'll be praying for you. God bless.
And I agree sometimes the wife is in denial. It's not thay she doesn't love you but it may be hard for her to accept she married a man that would abuse her son. So please tell another trusting adult as well.
And regardless to what happens this is nor will it ever be your fault.
2007-01-14 21:12:44 · answer #4 · answered by Elizabeth O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are sending mixed signals here just like you did when you accepted to watch because you were CURIOUS, got EXCITED, HARD, STIMULATED and then CAME into digust after the fact?!!. Now you ask us if you should tell anyone about it when you just told the world on the net? You could have kicked and screamed bloody murder at the time. And what did he have a firm grip on? surely you did expose yourself just as he? Seems to me that there is more here than you are willing to let us in on.
The truth of the matter is, YOU put yourself into that predicament. You were ASKED, then you ACCEPTED. You could have avoided the whole thing on your own. Your curiosity got the best of you and now you want justice and punishment? I think it is unfair that you would manipulate a situation to your own benefit and try to be the innocent one here doing the right thing.
You need to ask yourself a lot of questions and see how all this would end up. You obviously are very smart and knew what you were doing. Not all young teens are naive. Now that you probably threatened him, got him on a tight leash and scared to death, he will probably do as you say due to blackmailing. Smart. Very smart. But you should consider your actions because there are always reactions . If you need help... Ther are hot lines for you to call and seek guidance and help. If that don't work.. Get MOM in on it and please do tell the whole truth and NOTHING but the TRUTH. Then let mom take it from there. It's nobody elses buisness but your familys. Once leaked out.... They'll look at you differently and either avoid you or try to get answers to questions for their own benefit to tell others. Be weary, cautious and think.
2007-01-14 21:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by xandros 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Yes
2007-01-15 04:39:33 · answer #6 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's sexual interference, or even abuse. You have every right to report it. You can talk to your mother, or you can talk to a cousellor at school. There may be serious ramifications. Only you can decide what's appropriate, but what your stepdad did is COMPLETELY unacceptable. I don't know your circumstances, but I *might* consider waiting and seeing if there are any other advances. If there are, then there's no question... report it.
2007-01-14 20:53:16 · answer #7 · answered by so far north 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a school counselor or teacher. If he's done this to you, he's probably done it to other boys as well, and he will likely try to get other stimulation via you again in the future.
I was on the trial jury for a man who did this to 3 different boys. He baited them with time on his computer, video games, and then he would try to watch porno with them.
Please get help from an adult. I would not recommend talking to only your mother as the wife typically is in denial on these matters.
2007-01-14 20:53:41 · answer #8 · answered by lotusbrenda 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You poor boy, yes it felt great, that's the idea, so you will allow him another access with you. You probably need to tell someone, not your mother, she will never believe you. Try, as much as possible to stay clear of this awful bloke. You may want to mention this to another person who may mention it to your mother and back you up all the way. This can not go on. I am sorry that I can not offer more help, you are not the one who needs help - HE IS!!!
2007-01-14 22:05:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You were sexually molested. You need to first find another place to live--grandparents, uncles/aunts, birth father-before you report him. Your mother may not believe you, and he may assault you again or worse. You need to have a plan to get out of the situation. IF you have any younger brothers or sisters, they are at risk also, so you need to report him to protect them as well.
2007-01-15 15:06:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋