if I defend myself. I might rush and look ridiculous, or even cry because I feel thatI can't handle emotionly the situation, such as an insult when shaking hand a relative who dislikes me.
2007-01-14 12:43:30 · 5 answers · asked by Summer O 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
All you have to do when you are dealing with someone like that, is just say that you do not have to do this, and walk away. Don't let them frighten you. That is actually how they get their power, by knowing that all THEY have to do is be overpowering and they scare people. But if you show them that you don't give that behavior your time, then maybe they will cool it. And it they don't, you STILL do not have to let them get to you. The only place that they control you is in their own mind, and by your frightened response. Take away the frightened response and that takes away a lot of that power... Good luck.
2007-01-14 13:04:33 · answer #1 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a feeling you might be running that famous gauntlet that we all have to run through between the ages of 12 and 21?? Close at all?? Yes? No? That person, or any other that would seek to intimidate you, is probably aware of your sensitivity and feels the power!! Learn to fake it. Or find a good insult that will only work once, but it'll be worth it!! Or how about avoiding him? I like this idea the best, probably because I just had it!! Next time he does his number on you, repeat exactly what he said right back to him, even if you have to face the wall!!!! I'd PAY to see you do THAT!!
I am a bad influence. But maybe it will help you feel better. No one knows how hard it is to stand up to those power-trippers, the smart-a****. They love to torment what they consider the weak when we are just sensitive and they have no sensitivity at all. They always have an excuse for it as though it was a noble gesture to toughen us up. Just try repeating him/them in any voice you can manage. You don't have to bellow or make it a sneaky whisper-----or whatever means that Uncle for instance, uses to deliver the blows. But throw him off his game!! Do it!! At best, he will think you are going crazy and then maybe he'll be scared of you. Practice some crazy eyeholds in the mirror. I swear, though I am shy and always have been, if he was doing that to me now??? I would Norman Bates the guy just as Cold as his Heart!!! Psycho??? Wish I was a fly on the wall when you pull the rug out from under him/them. Now Listen Hon, if that's not possible for whatever reason, at least create the imagery and let it rock you to sleep just thinking about the B******* that do that to you. If they thought you might GO OFF and hurt them!! Good Luck!! I'm going to pray for you and hope I get an open line on a Sunday night!! Going right now>>>>>
Good Luck!! Oh yeah, and he'll have to die someday. Before YOU do probably!! Now THERE"S a silver lining to a special brand of raincloud!! @8=) Gotta talk to your Maker. See ya!!
2007-01-14 13:05:27 · answer #2 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many Times
2016-05-24 03:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just remember that you have the power to walk away! be kind to yourself and if a relative insults you a lot, dont' shake hands with them. just give a sorta half smile and a little wave, mumble how ya doing? no matter what they tell you, you do NOT have to deal with people like that!
2007-01-14 12:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by habs_freak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do struggle with that sometimes. it gets easier as you get older not to let others intimidate you. And sometimes, you are so fed up you cease to care anyway.
2007-01-14 12:48:26 · answer #5 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋