My boyfriend and I are having problems?

Question

I have been with him for a year and about 6 months. and i have no idea why but i'll be head over heels with him onr day then the next he just bugs the crap out of me. He always thinks I can do better than him and that I'm too good for him. And I'm not all about that. But i do wish he had more confidence. I'm just so confused, I really want to see other guys sometimes because i just recently lost weight and I think I look great and other guys at school have been noticing me and stuff. I just don't know if I should break up with him, or stay with him and be bored.



and pardon me for saying this, but we haven't been sexual for about a month either

Answer 1

Sounds like he is "just not that into you." Maybe you need to move on.

Answer 2

Move along sweetheart. You are past the stage where everything is wonderful no matter what (new relationship stage) so if you have constant feelings that he is not it for you than it is time to say bye bye and move onto something better. The longer you Wait the more likely you are to be stuck with someone you feel Luke warm for when the waters all around could be hot hot hot. Do not feel bad about it, and be kind on the let down..If he does not have confidence he is most likely sitting around thinking you will break up with him sometime..which he can not do on his own even if he wants to because he lacks he confidence to find someone else as well.

Answer 3

I'm not sure why this is in the Music category, but I'll give my two cents anyway.

Is there a reason why your boyfriend says that you deserve better than him? Did he do something that he should be ashamed of? If he constantly says this to you, maybe one time you should say back to him "well, maybe I DO deserve better if you keep telling me that". :-)

Married couples go through phases where they get tired of the other person, but it's a PHASE for most, and they get over it. Everybody needs their own personal space. If you really don't want to be around him, that might be a sign that you are ready to move on.

If your boyfriend doesn't make you feel good about yourself, or if you are ashamed to say he is your boyfriend, then it's time to move on. If he really believes that he doesn't deserve you (for whatever reason), HE is the one that needs to get past that. He needs to work on his self-esteem. Unless there is another reason for his low confidence in himself (because he's cheating or something), it's a problem with himself that HE needs to fix, it's nothing that you can fix.

Obviously you are thinking about dating other people, so I think that's your answer right there as far as staying with your boyfriend or not. Maybe his lack of self-confidence is not good for your confidence. Sometimes people around you can drag you down and you don't even realize it.

Have a talk with your boyfriend. Talking with him about your relationship, where he sees your relationship going, etc., might give both of you some clear answers.

Answer 4

Maybe the cause for your boyfriend's behaviour is the fact that he is either having a feeling of insecurity due to the fact that he is not getting the affectionate attention from you or he is just putting on an act in order to frustrate your emotional feelings for him (this usually happens when he may be interested in someone new) the situation usually appears in the form of lack of interest in anything you have to do or say. My suggestion is to arrange a dinner date with your favorite music playing in the background and his favorite food. This will be a good setting for both of you and remind him either during or after the date that he is the only one in your life and see how he reacts to this. It is usually said that a way to get to a guy is by way of his stomach.

Answer 5

If you think you shouldn't be with him, then you probably are ready for a change. A lot of girls that have been with their boyfriends for a significant amount of time think that they've been in it too long to break up but that really isn't true.
Tell him that you'd like a break and want to start seeing other people for awhile. If he agrees, maybe go on a couple of dates with a few different guys and see how you feel. If you miss your boy, then you know you need to work on your relationship. If you don't really miss him, then you'll know that it's time to let go.

Answer 6

i think part of his problem is that he feels threaten now that you've lost weight. He might not feel comfortable with other guys noticing you. If you are so bored with him sexually you should try to spice things up a bit either by playing sexy games or giving each other sexy massages or other things of that nature. I think it's also that now he might notice that you want to see other guys because of the weight loss, so that doesn't help. I think you should give him another chance try to make him feel better if it really bothers you and you still want to go elsewhere than do so but give him a chance first. You wouldn't want to have waisted 1 1/2 of your life.

Answer 7

humm. It sounds like you already made up your mind and you want to leave him, because you are bored. Its ok if you want to date other people but if you do love your boyfriend give him and the relatoinship another chance by telling how you feel about the relationship and what you would like from the relationship. Men need to be told exactly they dotn understand gestures or hints. he may be feeling insecure because you losed weight and he feels you are going to leave him so he is being a bore and not realizing it. So talk to him, do fun things, be intimate it is a very important part of a relationship and good luck.

Answer 8

About your weight, congrats but he was with you even when u weren't as small as you are now. Hes the one who loved you before you lost your weight. Every relationship has their ups and downs and i really know how it feels.

I think the problem right now has to do with ur weight. He feels like he's not good enough and you guys need to sit down and you need to talk to him and tell him how much you love him and that he IS good enough for you and that you dont want to be with anybody else. You feel like you do right now cause hes very insecure and it turns you off. You need to reassure him that you wanna be with him and not somebody else and trust me things will work out. He probably feels you do want to be with somebody else and that, in a way you're showing him hes not good enough because your cold to him some days. You really need to have a talk and tell him how you feel and how much you love him to boost his confidence again. You'll get your spark back.

Good luck ! Please talk to him and tell him what he means to you and that no matter how much weight u lost, you still love him and he IS good enough for you cause right now he probably feels really insecure and he needs to be told what he means to you.

Answer 9

Sounds as though you need to move on dear...congrats on loosing weight...you should celebrate that. Be single for a while without any ties...enjoy the new you!!
Don't ever let anyone drag you down..

Answer 10

Maybe you Not as in love as you think if one day your head over heals then next day he bugs you so much i;d really think about that if i was you.

Answer 11

okay I think that if he gets his little attitude or whatever,then you need to sit him down,and talk to him,and say look I dont need this bs,and if you are willing to trust,and have confidence in me,then Im down to be with you,but if you wanna play games with me,f*#@ that I dont need this,Im gone,and you can be too.And dont loose it over guys,I did one time,and lost alot of important time reminissing,and holding on that I couldnt get back!But if this dosen;t help dont listen to us,the answer is inside you,follow your heart honey!