if u have thoughts about being with another woman for quite some time but never acted on it, does that mean that i have "tendencies" of wanting to be a lesbian?
2007-01-14 12:12:10 · 14 answers · asked by blue 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
im married (to a man)
2007-01-14 12:37:54 · update #1
I think you should try it. The only way you know would be to experiment. It doesn't mean that you are a lesbian, for now just curious.
2007-01-14 12:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by Jfranc1 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Considering you are married, it is not suggested to just go out and try it. This should be something you seriously consider with your husband, and keep in mind that this could either bring excitement into the relationship, or even ruin it. Jealousy is another issue. I truly believe that you know in your heart whether you are curious or are truly bisexual, or lesbian. You can have fantasies and not be bi OR lesbian. A lot of women are even attracted to other women but don't want to actually act on it. I think it depends on how much you lust women. If you are attracted to and want to be with a man as well, you can't be a lesbian, so you would either bi or bi-curious. Hope that helps.
PS- I truly believe you don't need to act on it to KNOW. That's like saying a gay/lesbian doesn't know they're gay/lesbian just b/c they haven't had sex with the same sex before. Some people are even born that way. Some have traumatic experiences that made them become that way. I don't think anyone really chooses to be that way. You either are or you aren't. Or you're bisexual or bi-curious. Hope that didn't confuse you.
2007-01-14 13:25:07 · answer #2 · answered by Luv2HelpYou 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no, it doesnt necessarily have to mean that you want to be with a woman you can just be as simple as curious. Sure many people have feelings for the same sex and dont act on it that doesnt mean that they want to be gay its just they may want to try being with a woman sometimes but not all the time.
2007-01-14 12:28:09 · answer #3 · answered by ki-ki 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you also like guys, you're bi-curious. If guys don't do it for you, you probably have lesbian tendencies. You will never know unless you act on your desires, and short of being a nun or under age, there's no real reason not to.
2007-01-14 12:17:35 · answer #4 · answered by mabster60 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
heck, sounds like you are curious for sure.. i think we all go thru curious stages in our lives.. many explore these curiousities as teens....
but what you really need to do is decide whether or not you feel that you need a woman to be satisfied.. or are you still totally happy with your husband? some bisexuals feel they have to have it from both, while most will still be happy with one person.
2007-01-14 13:05:35 · answer #5 · answered by Jeff 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not really,you could be curious about it.
But as you said you never acted on it.
Just think a while and then decide what it is that attracts you to women.
Can as well be another thing besides sex.
Greetings:Rob.xxxx
2007-01-14 12:20:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, it doesn't. It means you are a perfectly normal human being. There's nothing wrong it either.
2007-01-14 12:46:01 · answer #7 · answered by cyanne2ak 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are attracted to the same sex exclusively you are Gay.
If you like both you are bisexual.
If you are only interested in the opposite sex you are heterosexual.
That's all there is to it.
2007-01-14 12:21:00 · answer #8 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i think you are being curious. and the only way to if you are bisexual, homosexual or heterosexual, try it once. if you feel comfortable being one of 'em, be the best person you can be.
2007-01-14 12:43:39 · answer #9 · answered by Aedryna Bi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever taken a tendency test before?
http://www.okcupid.com/tests/take?testid=15134143976037004043
2007-01-14 12:18:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋