How do you talk to a person when...........?

Question

you really have nothing to say to them, but you know you should really talk to them.

(I'm really bad at carrying on conversations and will lie just to get out of one. Help me!!!!plz!!!)

Maybe I should tell you that this person is my BROTHER!

Answer 1

Your brother! Well. Bottom line, really not that much different than a "friend." I'm not that sure your conversational skills are the issue here! Reality is, there are SOME people with whom we simply haven't enough in common to talk with! Guess what. Many people aren't listening to you, anyway, just to themselves. You can make little "noises" in response to what they're saying, & they won't even notice the difference. Best for you, if you can avoid them, but your brother--what can I say? PLUS. You do NOT have to "lie" about anything. Be non-commital. I get the feeling you're expecting too much of yourself, just chill out & let HIM carry the ball. That's what most people prefer anyway.

Answer 2

First thing you need to do is, find out what the person you are going to talk to really likes. Or find out what the latest things that people are talking about. Have practice sessions with a close friend at home or even a sibling. This may sound funny, but it does help you to relax, and feel better about conversing with others.
Sometimes it is good to watch some latest movies. Then Ask,
"Hey did you watch this movie yet?" You can say "It was really good," and you liked a certain part alot. Sometimes just listening to a person talk, can show you are a good friend. Tell the people that you are with, that you are a little shy, and please excuse you, your not real talkative. This way to, they won't think you are stuck up.

Answer 3

I am terrible at small talk too. Ask the person questions about herself. Most people like to talk about themselves and find it easy to do, so that should get a conversation started. From there you may find some common areas of interest. Try to be a really good listener and you may find that you don't need to talk that much.

Answer 4

Yeah I know what you mean. Its called "small talk" you just say bullshit things to get a conversation goin. I hate small talk because its fake talk. But in the scheme of things and how society works, it is something that can get a conversation started.

So you just start with something like how they like this weather or any other question usually does it. Even though the receiver knows its just small talk, they usually understand you are just being polite. So then if they want to talk they will respond with something similar and from that you can guage wether they want to talk or not.

Answer 5

Initiate conversations about topics which you feel comfortable. You must have interests and hobbies where you are sure that you know facts and could hold conversation. If you are uncomfortable with this, turn conversations and ask people direct and key questions about themselves. This way they will have to talk while you listen. Observe others while they speak, their mannerisms, their eyes, their body language. As with most things in life, practice makes perfect.

Answer 6

First of all, I know that I'm going to sound like a broken record but you got to be honest. Ask yourself: Why doesn't this person interest me? Why don't you try asking them what they find interesting about themselves? If it is someone you should talk to then they must be important. Your question leaves out vital info about what type of person this is.If this person is special to you then I'm sure you can find something to say. If not, then move on to someone you can talk to.

Answer 7

Well ask them about things that interest you to see if they have the same interest. For instance if you like sports, ask them if they do, if they do then you have something to talk about. If not sports try movies, books, hobbies, or electronics. There has to be something that you both enjoy doing. It is worth a try.