For the first time I am actually afraid, ladies I need some help?

Question

First of all, I am 30+ years old. I have a great career and I am finishing my final degree. I am in love with a wonderful man that dotes on me despite my shortcomings. My son is doing terrific and he is starting to look toward colleges and his own life. Here is the problem, for the last week, I have been sick to my stomach, dizzy and going to the bathroom constantly. I am a week late. I love the man in my life but I am looking foward to finishing my parenting responsibilities. Financially, I can afford to take care of a child. Emotionally I cannot. It is too much for eighteen years. It would not be fair to this child at all. First, I do not agree with abortion but I am carefully considering it. Please tell me anything that this can be other than what I think that it is. Have anyone actually gone through this and not have been pregnant. If so what was it. I am afraid to take a pregnacy test. If you have had an abortion, how did you cope with it? Any other options?

Answer 1

Iron deficiencies can cause all of your symptoms. Get your iron levels tested and get tested for anemia, just to heck have them do a pregnancy test while they are taking blood. blood pregnancy tests are more accurate. Don't stress until you know for sure what it is. If you are pregnant think about adoption or open adoptions.

Answer 2

I believe your first step is to determine if, or if not you're pregnant. Wrestling with "what to do" when you don't even know if you need do anything, is unnecessarily stressful. You can only make a decision when you know if you are or not. I'm not pro, or anti abortion. I value all life. Yet, I understand, or perhaps better said, my personal morals make distinctions between health risks of the mother, incest, rape etc. &/or a child who will have a very sorry life as a consequence of a mother who couldn't adequately raise them, care for them, possibilty of passing on diseases, & so on. This isn't what you present. IF you are pregnant, & IF you truly don't want another child, (I can understand from what you said), it seems to me that your only choice would be adoption. Even going through the pregnancy could interfere with your life, but wouldn't you think it very SELFISH not to "sacrifice" this time for a life (which is controversial enough as to when it's considered a life). I must say, that you're putting cart before the horse, since you don't know one way or the other. I'd agree it's best to consider alternatives before having to choose them but for gooodnes sake! By being "afraid" to take a pregnancy test, you're really spinning your wheels. TAKE IT. & then carefully, thoughtfully, take one step at a time for YOUR benefit as well as the--child's. Am I MAKING ANY SENSE TO YOU?

Answer 3

Please don't abort. That would be such a shame. Why is adoption not an option? You could easily be a surrogate mother? There are so many people who want children that cannot have children. Have you looked at your own family - is there anyone that is unable to conceive who you feel would make good parents? I know a child is not like a puppy and you can't just "give" a child to someone you "think" would make good parents, but you are 30 something, you should be able to make an educated decision. It's your body, should you abort, would you be able to live with yourself or would you always be wondering "what if" ...(I ask that b/c you said you didn't agree with abortion).

Just go take the pregnancy test.

Answer 4

This is just my personal opinion. I know you probably don't want to hear this, but take a pregnancy test. If you aren't pregnant, at least you won't have to worry about it anymore. If you are, then at least you know and can start taking proper care of your body. If you are unsure about abortion, DON'T do it! You may regret it later, and there's NO turning back. If you insist on considering it, then take some time to do so (but remember there is a window). I understand that this is something you didn't plan on, but I personally feel it would be wrong (especially for selfish reasons) to kill your unborn baby. Have you considered letting someone adopt? What if YOU changed a couple's life forever by giving them a baby they've always wanted? I can't tell you what to do, but you did ask for opinions, so I thought I'd give you mine. I had no intentions on offending you, so I apologize if I did that. I wish you luck on whatever you decide to do. You have a life-changing decision to make.

Answer 5

It could be a bug. The missing period could be early stages of menopause or just that you did not ovulate. What birth control methods are you taking? That might have something to do with that as well. (I'm assuming you're being very careful since you state that you have no interest in having any more children and would not purposely put yourself in that situation to begin with)

Sooner or later, you'll have to face your fears and take the pregnancy test. If it comes back positive, consider ADOPTION, not ABORTION. It's not fair to the baby; it was your doing that he's coming if he is, and not his fault at all. If it does not, talk to your doctor. Either way you'll need medical attention. Good luck to you!

Answer 6

Take a pregnancy test., If you are pregnant, get some counseling and talk long and hard about it with your partner. Maybe you could give the baby up for adoption. Or maybe parenthood again would be a blessing in disguise. Does your partner want a child? Maybe he could assume more of the child rearing responsibilities while you pursued a career. If you have misgivings about abortion, don't do it. You may regret it for the rest of your life. Good luck.

Answer 7

DON'T choose abortion. You really can't cope with it, it will stay with you FOREVER. You've noted that it wouldn't be fair to the child for you to raise it. How is abortion fair to the child? Consider adoption. It sounds like it is the best case in your situation, assuming you're pregnant of course.

PLEASE do not abort. For both your sakes. You're only thinking of abortion because you are panicking. Try going to a counselor/therapist. Sit down and think about it from a rational point of view, not emotional.

Answer 8

I would think about adoption if you dont want to have another baby. there is a lady with a great job, on this site somewhere that I saw that is looking for another baby to adopt, she is interested in open or closed adoption. Maybe you could contact her and see where she is, maybe it would work for you two. This would avoid having to go through an unwanted abortion. I hope this helps you, good Luck her page is listed below.

Answer 9

Hmm... abortion was a big deal to me. I was only 16. Still, I went into deep depression which lasted years and in itself kept me from reaching goals the abortion was intended to keep on track.

If you are and if you do have an abortion, please line up some counseling at the same time. It's going to be a doozy. Scared me so bad, I'm 30 now and still haven't had kids.

Answer 10

Sewer rats yea. Mice no i can attempt to capture them and prefer cause them to my child for the day then at night time i allow them to pass if i even uncover one. I recognise i'm bizarre do not need to say it. My residence had five or six mice in it as soon as and my dad known as the exterminator and that i took the spray or anything it was once that kills them and that i broke it lol. My dad was once so mad. Oh good they're so lovely. They have no idea any greater to not pass in a residence. I love puppy rats and puppy mice. I love all animals tho. I like sewer rats. I simply do not like that they're from the sewer lol.