she's been with 4 other guys before she met me and that bothers me.
I can deal with her on just a GF level, but not a wife. I don't want a wife that has slept with other guys.
I really care about her, but I just could never marry her because I would be unhappy because of that fact.
Can I tell her that this is the reason or should I just keep it to myself??
2007-01-14 12:08:14 · 23 answers · asked by The Don 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
One of your girlfriends wants to marry you? how many GF do you have? you said you like and care about her. Not once did you once say that you loved her. you have a right not wanting to marry a girl who has slept with 4 guys. If you are looking for a girl who has not slept with a guy, there are some out there. One thing i will tell you is to NOT string her along. If you think that it wont go farther than GF/BF than you are better off letting her go be with someone who wont judge her on the fact that she slept with 4 guys. You dont want to be in a un-happy marraige.
2007-01-14 12:18:11 · answer #1 · answered by deb c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude! This is 2007! To say she had 4 other guys before you is not that big of a deal. If you love her what she did in her past doesnt have anything to do with you. You could be throwing away the love of your life. Dont worry about that crap I'm telling you.
The past is the past, the future belongs to you and her!
I hope you make the right choice and good luck.
2007-01-14 12:15:35 · answer #2 · answered by Wisdom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you slept with her? If so, quit being a hypocrite and get over it if that's the only reason you don't want to marry her.
If that's not the only reason, then just tell her you don't want to be married to her. You have to break up with her if that's the case; you can't have it both ways.
Just the fact that you have more than one "GF" is problematic. Obviously you're not ready for commitment, anyway.
2007-01-14 12:13:39 · answer #3 · answered by cucumberlarry1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all..you said one of your girlfriends, does this mean you are cheating on her ora that you have multiple girlfriends? Four other guys isnt a lot. Most women who are old enought o consider marriage have been with well over 4 guys. If you dont want to marry her, you just dont. if you are just in the relationship and you are never going to get married to her..you should end it.
2007-01-14 12:12:27 · answer #4 · answered by Kaylee Jane 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are requiring that your wife is a virgin, you had better be one too. Sounds like she deserves better. I had been with way more than 4 men when I met my husband. He didn't care. He had actually been with the same exact number of women.
2007-01-14 12:13:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe that you actually said the words "one of my GF's" it makes you sound like you have so many and that you can't make up your mind as to which one of them that you want the most!
think about your questions and how they may sound to other people on here, before you actually post them!!
Another thing...you are never going to find a woman that has only been with you and no one else...and even if you did, chances are she won't stay with you without dating other men to see for herself, if you are the right one for her!
Think about it!!!!
2007-01-14 13:09:50 · answer #6 · answered by angelbeliever114 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough question. Definitely tell her how you really feel and the reasoning for it. If you keep it to yourself and end up marrying her, I'm afraid you'll regret it later. Good luck.
2007-01-14 12:11:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is going to be heartbreaking that you don't want to marry her and that you think she is a used woman. She should know though. Tell her, but treat her to a wonderful night. But also remember that you are not God's gift, honey and we are all just human. I do think that you should wait on that person that totally and unconditionally blows your mind, so I give you kudos for your honesty, but you gotta tell her, please.
2007-01-14 12:12:08 · answer #8 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes not the right girl because when you fall in love it wont matter how many guys shes been with.Love can do funny things to you.
2007-01-14 12:14:41 · answer #9 · answered by GranGran 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that seems like a good reason but ask yourself is she OK with the number of girls you slept with? How many girls did you sleep with before her?
2007-01-14 12:11:46 · answer #10 · answered by UR funee but looks arent evrythg 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋