A few days I ago I issued a "bed time" for my two month old. We were all going to bed to late (between 1130 and 1230). I didn't think it would be a big deal as all it would be is bathtime then feeding then going to bed by 830 instead of 1130. Since starting this she has been more fussy. She also is harder to get to take naps. As well as harder to please. Is she just adjusting to the new schedule or should I just go back to the old one?
2007-01-14 12:04:21 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I think she is adjusting to it. Keep doing it if you eventually want to have schedule. Nobody said it's going to be easy, but you will get there. I think your decision is right. I suffered (not my baby!!!!! I love her to death) when I thought it's time for routine, I had no sleep because day naps and night sleep shifted. It was all screwed up. By the end of 2nd week of trying I started to see "ray of light" and when she was almost 3 months old I had a reward. Now she is 4mo and no problems. it takes me 1 to 2 "come back's " (10 min max) for pacifier during the day and at night it can be as quick as I want. But I take my time I enjoy spending thees Tet-a-Tet last minutes of the day!
Bath time, good night kiss and a little cuddle with daddy, CD with lullabies and feeding in the dark quiet room, that's my story :) Be firm with schedule still work it around when needed. And don't rush baby it takes time to do that!
Good luck!
2007-01-14 12:48:05 · answer #1 · answered by Boogie 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I agree with Jessy. 2 months is way too little to impose schedules.
Babies at this age, often go through growth spurts where they will need to feed frequently during the night and day. Expect a breastfed baby to wake every 1.5-3 hours and a formula fed baby to go closer to 2-4 hours. Their stomachs at this age, are only the size of a golf ball. As they get older and their digestive systems mature, they will eventually be able to sleep for longer intervals of time and will be ready for more of a schedule or routine.
I would go back to your old schedule, if it was working before,
why change it? When it stops working, then that is when you need to improvise.
Sleep when your baby sleeps and ask for help on the days you are really exhausted.
It does get better and eventually your little one will be sleeping on a schedule, but please do not enforce or impose a strict schedule just yet.
The first year will be filled with irregularities. Just when you think you have naps set, a bed time set, your infant may fall ill, start a new developmental milestone, or start to teeth which will temporarily throw any schedule off schedule.
If you are really needing some good rest, you can try co-sleeping. If you are nursing, it may make rest easier for both you and your baby.
Good Luck to you and your newborn.
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2007-01-14 13:57:39 · answer #2 · answered by jns 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A 2 month baby is not going to adjust to a schedule like that. Eventually she will understand that its a certain time to go to bed and you will have to slowly adjust her to that. Instead of setting the schedule to 8 try 10. U can always play with her most of the day so she wont have as many naps throughout the day so she will be tried and sleepy at 8 and you give her a bottle and she will go straight to sleep. But that a big step for a baby so you will have to slowly adjust her to it.
2007-01-14 12:28:04 · answer #3 · answered by Mee-me 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Can you imagine the mothers of 100 years ago and all the years since the beginning of time, trying to discover "..what the baby wants?" That is a funny thing to me <---not giggling, really. The Creator gave babies to parents b/c baby does not know what he needs or what is good, thats your job. I have had 4 babies and also fostered 12 newborns that were awaiting adoption (as well as Board of Director) so I will say that it is quite an easy thing to set a nice regular routine with baby that works. You are a smart mother and want to do things right. So begin baby's day at 7am every morning. Feed her every 4 hours letting her digestive system empty before dumping new milk into a tummy that has partially digested the old. Which incidently can cause colic and tummy pain. At 7pm feed and bathe her and put her to bed. This will give you time to spend with the rest of the family and the babys dear daddy. At 11 give baby one more feeding, keeping the lights off and being very quiet. Change her diaper and lay her back down. Her body will flow into this rhythm so easily. Remember that it only takes 3 times to create a habit. You know that from experience of your own. So have a good time with baby. She will be so pleasant, content and happy b/c she will be well rested, along with yourself. Be sure and show other young inexperienced mothers how to do it right. :) diannatriplett@yahoo.com
2007-01-14 12:40:38 · answer #4 · answered by DT 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well 2 months is a little young for a set schedule, then again if the old one wasn't working for you you need a change.
I would, personally, go back to the old bedtimes and try moving the naps around first so she is more tired earlier for bed.
Try more gradual changes like a half an hour and then leave it for 3-4 days then move another half hour.
2007-01-14 12:12:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, I didn't know you could actually get a two month old baby on a schedule; it's usually the other way around: you adjust yourself to your baby's schedule. You can't expect a baby to follow your routine; if it were that easy, anyone could be a parent.
Try to work around the baby's schedule instead of your own. It'll get easier as the baby gets older; right now the baby needs to be allowed to be a baby.
Good luck!
2007-01-14 12:10:34 · answer #6 · answered by *Jessy* 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Be consistant and after a couple of weeks she will get more used to it. Be prepared this may mean her waking up in the morning earlier but if you want to go to bed earlier this is the payoff. Good luck with it!
2007-01-14 12:19:08 · answer #7 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's good that you are trying to put your child on a schedule, but my kids put me on a schedule. When they slept so did I! When they woke I woke! When they ate.... I waited ! The whole routine thing doesn't start until they are older! Right now you are supply and the baby is Demand! Get sleep when you can, eat when you can, shower when you can! Until your child is atleast a year you have to get used to being on demand.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-14 12:15:14 · answer #8 · answered by ♥xvioletx1882♥ 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No go with the 830
2007-01-14 12:13:40 · answer #9 · answered by Lauren S 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
instead of just rushing her into just changing her schedule by having such a jump between times you should try slowly easing her into an earlier bedtime. change from 11:30 to 11:00 and when she gets used to it change to an earlier time just not an hour or 2
2007-01-14 12:11:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋