im 17 (male) and my sister has this really hot 23 year old husband, he has blond hair with huge green eyes and a nice six pack. So i was crashing at their place and when my sister was out we sort of got horny and had sex. I never meant for any of this to happen. He told me never to say anything or he would kill me. Should i tell my sister, i just don't want her to know that im gay.
2007-01-14 11:55:51 · 21 answers · asked by goldwinner 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes. She needs to know so she can get tested for AIDS.
2007-01-14 12:10:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You may never have a good relationship with your sister again, but it is MORE important that she know who she has married (hopefully BEFORE she has any children). Trust me, if he slept with you, he has slept with other men (and possibly women) and is risking her life by exposing her to STD's no matter how careful he is. This is not about you any more. It is about your sister's future and her deserving a good life with a partner devoted to only her. You will eventually come out of the closet anyway. If you truly love your sister, even if it means losing her, you will do the right thing.
2016-05-24 02:28:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a real post and not a sick joke, then you absolutely MUST tell her.
For several reasons.
1) If this guy is sleeping around, whether sleeping around with men or women, he is putting HER at risk for HIV. If you don't say anything and she gets AIDS from him and his little romps, how will you feel?
2) Would you rather she found out now, from you, that her husband was experimenting with the other gender? Or do you think she would rather find out after they'd been married for 15 years and had two kids?
3) If you didn't want her to know that you were homosexual, than you should not have slept with her husband.
4) You need to think hard about your choices. You say, "we sort of got horny" and you make it sound like it was inevitable. Your statement seems to suggest that if you get horny there is no alternative but to have sex. You had several options. Leave the situation, excuse yourself to the bathroom and take the issue in hand (if you get my gist), you could have reminded him of certain vows that he had spoken, and legal papers he had signed stating that he wouldn't be dinking around with anyone else...etc.
2007-01-14 12:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
First, if you are living in a state where age of consent is 18 & over, you can file statutory rape charges against your brother-in-law.
If not, don't tell your sister. Some straight guys are horny b's who don't care where they get it as long as it's free and available.
A good way to get it off your chest (if you're Catholic) is go to confession (in another town) and let it spill. Otherwise, keep it to yourself until you are living on your own and at least much older. By that time, they'll probably have split up over his sure to be more infidelities.
2007-01-14 12:06:15 · answer #4 · answered by mabster60 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello =)
If this is a valid question....
Then no, you must not tell her, and you must not ever again acknowledge that this ever took place.....not even anonymously, here or places like this.....
Place it out of your mind, and find other hot 23 year olds with blond hair, green eyes, and nice six-packs.
He belongs to your sister, not you.
If they ever split up, then he's fair game. But do not use that as a premise to try and split them up. Remember you owe your first allegiance to your sister, ALWAYS.......
You need to accept that this was a mistake, and acknowledge that you made it. Then, put it behind you.
Namaste,
--Tom
2007-01-14 12:06:48 · answer #5 · answered by glassnegman 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's a mistake for both of you. And you should learn form it if you both love that person, you won't do it again. Just move on.
And if your brother-in-law wants to tell your sister let him.But don't do it.
You should stay away from them and let them live their lives without you in the picture, unless you know you are strong not to do the same thing over again.
2007-01-14 12:00:49 · answer #6 · answered by binibining pilipina 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoa! Give me her number.. I'LL tell her. Aren't you concerned about your sister being married to a gay man who is obviously unfaithful. Somebody should tell her. They are probably having sex with no condoms, while she's thinking she's safe while he's out there doing who knows what on the down low.
2007-01-14 12:01:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh my God, that is the worst, you should be on Jeremy Springer or like wise. Do not tell your sister, keep away from her husband.
To think if you told her, she would have to deal with the fact that her husband has slept with someone else, a man at that and that man was her brother and her brother is gay. Think about it and then forget about it, that's my advise.
2007-01-14 12:02:09 · answer #8 · answered by Emma 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You are so wrong for that, not only are you gay, but your sleeping with your sisters husband, I think you should tell her, that way she can move on with her life, and find a man that likes women,one that won't sleep with her brother, and one that will make her happy. I hope you fill really bad.
2007-01-14 12:04:14 · answer #9 · answered by This is just my opinion! 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You just don't want your sis that you are gay? is that all or you want to hide because you are expecting more and more chances with him. You guys are too much.
i am sure that your sis knows you are gay. why not you tell her and you can take him when she leave him. happy hum? i don't see you care for her. don't you?
2007-01-14 12:16:42 · answer #10 · answered by naw m 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'll sleep with your sister and make everything OK.
2007-01-14 12:04:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋