I often wonder this because I’m not a people person, I pretty much keep myself to myself, but every now and then I feel the need to be accepted by someone, I guess that’s why I’m on Yahoo! Answers.
2007-01-14 11:44:02 · 17 answers · asked by Shadow 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being alone!
Show people that you need nobody, and then that will awaken their interest..or better said, their curiosity!
But, remain yourself, do not make concessions, be consequent and should you happen to make contact then just take it easy. Be laid back and be happy with your health and yourself, then the rest comes on its own!
You will probably find that these people are jealous in one way or another, because you maybe have something (in your person), that they do and cannot have.
Be yourself and keep smiling, good luck!
2007-01-14 17:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by Gary H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typically a person's need to be with someone else is driven by a desire to be validated. There are a lot of people who are afraid of being lonely. The antagonism is solitude and those who constantly seek interaction with others are highly unlikely to understand the distinction.
Have you ever just sat and watched people? They can't seem to shut up and just look into the other person's eyes without words getting in the way. And those are observations of families.
What about sitting still? Many people spend much of their early life attempting to master the ability to keep a poker face. But their feet and all the constant motion of their twitching and shifting give it all away.
You will find, very rarely, if you look for it, a person who has the ability to keep their mouth shut and sit still. They are in a state of solitude that millions will never experience because they are too busy trying to be whatever it is they are trying to be with whomever they are trying to be that whatever with.
That's okay. Life is passing them by. And it will all be over before they realize the wisdom that is between these lines.
2007-01-14 11:57:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people want company, well because it's company. Being alone will make you go a bit crazy after a while. It's not a need to be accepted, it's a need for conversation and fun. If you are happy being alone, you're not hurting anyone. But most people do like a person to share their life with.
2007-01-14 11:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the saying goes: Man does not live by bread alone. We all need acceptance. It valuate our being. I too like some solitude, but I also like company too.
Are you shy? Being alone isn't good you know. It won't hurt to have some friends. Every now and then invit them over for a little while.
2007-01-14 11:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by rma2ks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean. I blame the media as everyone has a big happy family. I actually had that myself once and it was good...but no amazing. Just like all females need to be thin, all adults are told we need to be in a special relationship yet actually, we don't. I am happier living in my own house on my own and once I close the door then my life is my own. I do have friends but I don't want to see them every day...
2007-01-14 14:32:16 · answer #5 · answered by Jackie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humans are social animals and enjoy an enhanced survival, in a group. I think we want to be validated, encouraged and loved and enjoy doing that for someone else.
There is nothing at all wrong with being alone, but there is the sadness that comes with being lonely-needing what you can't do for yourself.
2007-01-14 11:55:54 · answer #6 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 18:36:26 · answer #7 · answered by adule 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, being accepted usually requires acting as something we are not in order to fit in. Being alone is fine. I don't understand why most people think there is something wrong with being a loner.
2007-01-14 11:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by Andastra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a life , accept yourself and other people will accept you.
you need to get out more and by the way i think your a terrific person and i dont even know you god bless and take a walk in the park and enjoy the beauty that god created- life is short
2007-01-14 11:50:46 · answer #9 · answered by doubletrouble 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where your coming from. The need to be accepted is only showing your human. It overrides any loner instincts you may have.
2007-01-14 12:19:39 · answer #10 · answered by Hope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋