Years ago my father had an affair, last year we found out that he was still meeting with the women on a "purely friendship" level(this I do not believe) anyways my mother kicked him out, but took him back, much to my protest. Recently I have found my father visiting many adult sites, being secretive with his phone, watching adult movies, constantly deleting the computers history etc. Should I tell my mother? or let her continue living a lie with a man who obviously wants to be elsewhere.
2007-01-14 11:25:22 · 9 answers · asked by light_at_the_end_of_the_tunnel85 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stay out of it. This is between your parents and you have no business being involved in it.
2007-01-14 11:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gheesh, hard one. I think you should talk to your Mom about it. You don't have to tell her everything since you are obviously feeling apprehensive about it. She knows or suspects that he is doing what he's doing because a woman has intuition she cannot ignore. You can simply ask her, "Mom, if I knew something that might hurt you about someone you love ver much, would you want me to tell you." She may want you to tell it, or she may spare you having to go into details.
Also, darling, it is not necessarily that he wants to be elsewhere, it may be that the dude has a problem keeping it in his pants and keeping himself dedicated to one woman. He's doubleminded and unstable. Keep praying for your Mom's strength and your Dad's deliverance. God bless you.
2007-01-14 12:29:40 · answer #2 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother. She deserves to know what kind of man she is married to. Let her decide if she still wants to be with him. You sound like a smart person and she is lucky to have you. Help her be strong and tell her she has you and she is not alone.
2007-01-14 11:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the lie gets out AND she finds out you knew the whole time, she'll be twice as hurt. Your father's actions aren't worth protecting, so I would tell your mom. Besides, it may save her from a future STD.
2007-01-14 11:31:21 · answer #4 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i were your mom. i would want to know about it, even if it causes a divorce. don't believe any thing with another woman is purely friendship. your dad is always going to be this way, and your mom has a right to know the truth.
2007-01-14 11:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree 100% with the first answer. It's the right thing to do, for your mom's sake.
2007-01-14 11:48:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO TELL HER if you really care about your MOM she will be THANKFUL that you cared that much tell her alone ok . HE IS IN THE WRONG (best of luck to you and your mom !!!!!!!
2007-01-14 11:41:21 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! i agree with 1st girl who ansered.
2007-01-14 11:33:53 · answer #8 · answered by - 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mother probally already knows ....she just doesnt know what to do she will figure it out be patient...
2007-01-14 11:36:23 · answer #9 · answered by christina c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋