I feel that I am shy and sensitive, does that mean weekeness?

Question

I hate to feel week, because I feel insecure inside, people hurt me and people can feel me like an easy target. in my whole my relatives used to make fun of me when I serve them and being hospitale nicely at parents house until today people use me and I let them because I need to feel secure and I have friends. I ifeel people want to have friends with strong personality.
I was not protected emotionly or not being taught how to prtotect myself emotionly, my mom used to control me and my desicions, I didn't even have an opinion in my life.
I feel this affected my social life, I can't manage children at work, I feel that I will be disappointing my boss, because any job needs excellent reltionships, to be successful and people will respect only when you are confident and strong.
My mom and my relatives never ever supported me emoitonly but they walked over to what they want and for their reputation and all sort of their selfish needs to be met. I was not born a communicator.

Answer 1

I'm pretty much just like you, and I'm not ashamed of it. Don't let people walk on you just to have a friend, because they aren't really your friends, they're just using you.

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with you. There are many shy/sensitive people out in the world. There are some parts of your past you don't want to carry over into your life-you recognize them. Control-Everybody had it but you. Now is your time for control of yourself. Yes, you'll make mistakes everyone does. You can take advice from those controlling people, but the final choice is up to you. There is no quick fix for having low self esteem, its do your best and trial and error from then on. Self talk can really hurt you-constantly tearing you down. It might be a good idea to try to limit your self talk telling yourself you can do this or that or at least you will try your very best. Growing up is hard, sometimes we just weren't given the right tools but we can get them on our own. There are books and support groups to help you with many of your issues too, so don't think you are alone.

Answer 3

There's nothing wrong with being shy and or sensitive.
Many, many people are that way. You can be confident
and strong in your own way. You have had enough of other people ruling your life, now is the time to do it your own way.
Just start making the changes you need to make. I know
change is not easy, but we all go through it. If you want your
life to get better, you have to be strong enough to take a chance.
I hope all will work out for you.....Best of Luck & God Bless

Answer 4

If no one will help you need to be a lone wolf besides the only one you can depend on is you self . Go out on a limb and do what you do best with out some one stopping you Just because u are sensitive doesnt mean u cant take charge of your own life
antonio13

Answer 5

everyone has a gift don't think sensitive to people is a weakness
just use it to help others, you can help others with there troubles get educated in child care. If you are educated you will be confident and that will make you strong. you can't please everyone just your shelf.as far as relatives or others like them here is the way it gos there strong people ( they think) and there are people like you nice and kind the strong see you as week but we know who the week is. an educated teacher told me that so pay know mind to them. love your shelf and know your shelf and you won"t know what there talking about.

Answer 6

I think you have something very special...you are human...and you have respect for the others that's why you are sensitive.

Next time when someone is making fun of you...don't make any kind of reaction...don't smile...just be quiet...and then probably... they will think it over...if they will make fun of you next time...

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