Ok, here's my situation. My girlfriend of a year and a half broke up with me a little over a month ago because she felt certain things were missing in the relationship. Since then I have done a lot of soul searching and I realized that she was right. What I have realized is that everything she wants in a relationship I want also. It seems like we are absolutely perfect for each other. The biggest problem was that I didn't realize it and we never really had any deep conversations about what we believe and what we want, so this led her to believe that I didn't want certain things she did and she decided to end things, even though now I realize that I want exactly what she wants when it comes to what we expect out of ourselves and each other. We have not talked in about a month because she wants her space, and I'm wondering if I should still try to get back together with her if I believe deep down in my heart that we are meant to be together and that things will be a lot better.
2007-01-14 11:10:44 · 8 answers · asked by frankfurter27 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just let it go already!!!
2007-01-14 11:15:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 month is not long enough to really think about and come up with perfect answers to the problems you have. She would never believe you right now if you talked to her so give her more time and instead of saying the things you think she wants to hear, lead by example and do things that will definitely show her youre headed down the right path where she is going. She will find out what youre doing and probably will contact you or give her a call just to see how things are going in a couple months.Do not bring up the relationship unless she does or anything that youre doing to "recover" her as she willprobably "see" right thru you and then things will be definitely over. Be patient is most important here
2007-01-14 19:26:32 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok if you know that you really and truely love her with all your heart and plan on showing her that you want what she wants and what is best for you guys relationship you should definately try and get back with her. If she says she wants a little space give it to her , it would kind of turn her off if you push up on her but of course still let her know whats up and tell her that you are willing to give her a little time to also figure things out but do not give up if you know that in your heart you two were meant to be together. Ok Good Luck!!
2007-01-14 19:29:14 · answer #3 · answered by Candy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems that you know exactly what the problem is and i think your next step is to show her how much you want her back. Well then Prove IT!! waiting won't change anything. you should take advantage of the time now when she's on her "PERSONAL space" why because there's usually only two things that's going to happen and that is #1 she would find someone else to replace you and #2 is slowly forgetting the love she had for you. So think quick and act fast buddy. If you WANT her than GO get her!! And remember love th people with whom fate brings you together.
Good luck!!
2007-01-14 19:23:55 · answer #4 · answered by smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants her space, you will need to give her just that, if you expect even a friendship to be restored. I certainly would not "chase" her, or any elaborate gesture. Perhaps a friendly card telling her that when and if she is ready, perhaps you could try again. (Not twenty pages long - just a brief, caring note). Then go on with you life, have "your space" too - you never know where "all that room" will lead you - perhaps back together with your former girlfriend, or a completely new direction. Good luck and have a great day!
2007-01-14 19:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by Lotsofwords 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly believe that you are on the same level as her...and didnt just SHOVE yourself into being in that level cause you feel lonely or just dont want to lose her....then go for it. Sometimes it takes things like that happeneing for some ppl to open their eyes. But if it doesnt wrk out again for the same reason..then you should just cut your loses and move on and focus on self improvement in areas where you think you need them.
2007-01-14 19:18:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u really believe this is the girl for u, than don't waste any time telling her how u feel, and hope she will see what's in your heart, and accept u back. if u want what she does in life, than tell her, seems as if u have really gotten to know yourself, sometimes it does take a heartache to be able to see what's important. go to her and plead your case.
2007-01-14 19:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your thinking too much about it. She just wants some strange manmeat.
Girls aren't that critical of the relationship if they really love you.
Stick a fork in your relationship with that hoe. It's dead and gone.
2007-01-14 19:25:58 · answer #8 · answered by summit_of_human_intellect 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋