My boyfriend of 2 yrs and i broke up recently. It's just been like a rollercoaster w/ us. I do't get it. It seems like he's keeping secrets from me and he just won't let me in. He swears he loves me and it seems like he really does love me. But i just want him to trust me enough to tell me whatever it is that he's hidding from me. We've had a rough relationship. I mean I've liked him when I was in a relationship with this other guy and he liked me to. but I couldn't break off the relationship with the other guy. When we finally broke up. He started going out w/ this other girl. Then he broke up with the girl because he said he couldn't stop thinking of me. But we started to get close then he pulled away again. We were together for a while. Everything seemed great. Then the secrets again. It's like he's giving me mixed signals. i can tell that he loves me. All of his friends say that he loves me so much, all of my friends say I am so lucky to be with him. He says he still loves me now.
2007-01-14 11:09:56 · 12 answers · asked by chickidy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I suppose you are having communication issues...try to tell him that his secret stays in your heart...and tell him that you love him and don't want to hurt him,you want just to help him to release the pressure he is having inside.
Good luck!
2007-01-14 11:14:33 · answer #1 · answered by Aquamarine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that maybe it sounds like you two should try being friend (with out dating any one else). You didn't say if you met him why you were with the other guy. But if you did I would have to say that the two of you never gave your self time to become friends. [He will open up when he feels ready to.] You also have to know that some people just do not like to talk about things. This may be some thing that you will be unable to change. I would have to say that with my husband and I when we were getting to know each other that we had our ups and downs. If you two can some how work through it. It will end up making you two a stronger pair. Also If the two of you just broke up then maybe he just isn't to trusting in the relationship yet.. give it time..
I wish the best to the both of you.
2007-01-14 11:42:14 · answer #2 · answered by mrs.mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever hes hiding from you will come out. You can assure yourself with that.
When you said " hes giving me mixed signals" i am assuming about your relationship,If someone really wanted to be with you , honestly you wouldn't have any doubts or second thoughts.The person would make it known to you in all the ways that make relationships so great that you are the one for me.
Because i noticed you said i know he loves me or still loves me at least 3 times tells us that you need assurace and that you really love him and want him to feel the sameway.
I would say try moving on for now and see what happens from there. By moving on i dont mean jumping into a relationship,but just let him know your cool with it and wouldnt mind chilling for a bit. Maybe he can find it in his heart to tell you what he needs to say sooner.
2007-01-14 11:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by My3kin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a relationship similar to this one.
If I were you I would just come straight out with it. Tell him how you feel if you haven't already. Give him the chose of being completelly honest with you or to be distant from one an other. Because if he really does love you like his friends say and how you think he does, he will understand where your coming from. Maybe he's been distant with you recently because he maybe afraid that him or you will get hurt in some way. I personally think he's looking out for you best intrest, you know what I mean? It really sounds like he does love you, just tell him everything that I had just read about your relationship with him.
2007-01-14 11:21:33 · answer #4 · answered by 1 confused chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can understand your boyfriends situation because I had the same issue with my boyfriend. He said he wanted me to trust him, because I was always keeping stuff from him...I've warned up to him and I completely trust him and we haven't been going out for two years...if after that long and he still can't trust you....though everyone comes around at their own time...that, in my opinion, is not love. How can it be? You can't love someone you can't trust. Trust is one of the key components in any relationship, if you feel like he's keeping something important from you then you to don't need to be together. Let him know that you love him, but if he can't trust you or let you in completely than you guys are better off at friends. If you get back together with him, there's the chance that you two could married and you don't want to marry someone who's with holding, because if he's not forthcoming now he won't be later. Good luck babe!
2007-01-14 11:18:24 · answer #5 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't feel like reading all of your question, sorry, but I will tell you this, do you see it going ALL the way?? If you can answer that and think about how your marriage would be together, and you like the idea, then do whatever you think you should.
You better trust him completely if you ARE thinking about being with him for a long time. Good luck!
2007-01-14 11:16:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU STILL LOVE HIM AND HE LOVES YOU THEN WHY NOT GIVE IT ANOTHER CHANCE AND HAVE A TALK WITH HIM AND LET HIM KNOW THAT YOU WANT HIM TO TRUST YOU ENOUGH TO TELL YOU STUFF AND NOT HIDE THINGS FROM YOU!!!! IF HE'S GIVIN YOU MIXED SIGNALS THEN ALL YOU CAN DO IS TRUST YOUR HEART ON WHAT TO DO AND REALLY THINK ABOUT IT ALOT AND WHETHER THATS WHAT YOU REALLY WANT INSIDE AND IF THAT'LL MAKE YOU HAPPY!! IF YOU STILL LOVE HIM AND THINK THINGS WILL BE BETTER THEN GO FOR IT GURL!!!!
2007-01-14 11:22:42 · answer #7 · answered by GigglesGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwww babe thass sooo sweet honestly you should get back with him if he wants to tell you something he wil tell you in due time, dont force the issue cos that will make like a brick wall between you both, hes proberly just finding the right way to tell you, honest get back with him! you two sound good together,,,hope everything works out for you :) x x x
2007-01-14 11:16:30 · answer #8 · answered by liam_jones_10_10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any guy that doesnt act right and keeps things from u u shouldnt date! i mean have some self respect for yourself! come on hes actn childish no matter how much u think he loves u it seems like hes acting like he loves u thin actin like he dont seems he needs time to grow up beofr he says wrods like that! trust me u dont need that just tell him like it is he either likes u and doesnt keep **** from u or get lost bc its hurting u!
2007-01-14 11:14:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want him to trust you,why don't you try trusting him?
here's a hint,guys don't like 10,000 questions and most can't stand drama queens.
2007-01-14 11:16:33 · answer #10 · answered by LIBS Make ME Sick!!! 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋