I have been married for 16 years & have had no children. It has been OK but at 40, I feel the marriage is dead & I want a fresh start. Just can't seem to pull the plug..............................................
I met a nice lady in classes I was taking at night 2 years ago. We have been hanging out at times & going places together. We get each other gifts & dinners. No sex has ever happened-----------yet.
What should I do??? Is this healthy or wreckless of me to be doing???
2007-01-14 11:04:15 · 9 answers · asked by reggaemoncharlie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Obviously you're not happy...either work the marriage out or leave her. The smartest road to take would be not to mess around on your wife...No matter what the deal is, no one deserves to be hurt like that. And its not exactly fair to girl #2 either, no matter if she tells you she understands or not...trust me, I was girl number 2 for a while, and it gets nasty.
2007-01-14 11:10:43 · answer #1 · answered by Krista 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I must ask....You said the marriage was ok, but now @ 40 you feel the marriage is dead, heres my question....Be honest with yourself, did your marriage start feeling dead 'after' you started seeing this new lady? Believe it or not, that is usually what 'kills' a marriage, introducing a 3rd party into it. MY advice? You know already may know the answer. Your marriage doesnt stand a chance in hell because you choose to do things with another woman, not your wife, But let me tell you, if you choose to dump your wife for this other lady, thats a whole new ball game and it may not be as pretty and 'fresh' as you think. Bottom line, Would YOU mind if YOUR wife spent that kind of time with another man?? I bet not.
2007-01-14 11:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by nyenelra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are cheating and you deserve whatever you get. Funny how you were together for 16 years and now that you met someone you realize how unhappy you are. Just an excuse. Get a divorce so you can be free to be with this person, it's the least you can do.
2007-01-14 11:09:21 · answer #3 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not healthy for you to be seeing another woman while you are still married. If you want to take thing further with this woman, you need to express your feelings to your wife and get a divorce.
2007-01-14 11:07:36 · answer #4 · answered by Delvala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Resolve the issues in your marriage before you go any further with the new lady.
2007-01-14 11:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you met her 2 years ago, that was your second bout with the seven year itch. Stick with the wife.
2007-01-14 11:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
End your marriage before you start another relationship. It's the decent thing to do.
2007-01-14 11:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you need to figure out what the most important thing is to you in life...is it to feel comfort from someone you know and care for? Write down what you liked about your wife and write down what you don't like. Then write down what you like about the new one. Most important write down what you want for yourself.
2007-01-14 11:13:15 · answer #8 · answered by Handbag Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reckless! Even if you are not having sex, yet....you are still cheating on your wife. There is nothing healthy about this.
2007-01-14 11:12:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋