I am so happy but he seems scared what do I do
2007-01-14 10:50:11 · 17 answers · asked by Jackie P 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You are 14? You should be put in a mental institution and he should be nuetered.
2007-01-14 10:53:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
Ok for you people who are being down right mean...dont answer the question...Accidents HAPPEN, thats how alot of babys get here, shes ASKING FOR HELP NOT CRITICISM!
As for you.... you are young and should be kinda scared about this and so should he, im 22 and married and it was a happpy moment for us but its still scarry... your gonna be a mom and the rest of your life is not about YOU anymore... can you handle that? Thats what he is thinking im sure... he has come into a BIG responsibility over night as have you... maybe you, him, and both of you guys parents should sit down and have a talk and discuss how this is gonna effect everyone and plan out the future... it may help ease his mind to know he has support behind him. Give him some time after that and maybe he will come around. if not its his loss.... babies are miracles, no matter what age you are... good luck sweety and i wish you and the baby the best :)
2007-01-14 19:07:18 · answer #2 · answered by 1n Heaven 1n MyBelly 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been there. Just give it some time.
When my bf found out that I was pregnant he was really nice at first. Then couple days later he started freaking out.
It upset me so much to the point that I was crying hysterically every time (hormone!) So I didn't talk to him for couple days. i didn't want to stress out since it's not good for your baby or your health.
So if he's just gonna upset you, just give him some time to think things through.
Good luck and hope he comes around.
By the way if he's sensitive about the whole pregnancy don't talk about pregnancy everytime you talk to him. it will get him more fired up. What I did was that i just left some pemplets and other articles about pregnancy on his desk so he can read them without any pressure. I'm still waiting for my bf to come around and see the baby as the way I see it.
2007-01-14 18:55:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, as a first-time father, it's normal for him to be scared. When my father found out that my mother was pregnant again, he had the biggest panic attack ever. I have an older sister too, so this baby is going to be number three. Just help him out, tell him everything's going to turn out great. No worries!
2007-01-14 18:57:33 · answer #4 · answered by →sugarwuss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nurture his feelings this is a huge repsonsibility but he will come around if not consider youre options and do what is best for you and the baby I had my son at 16 and he has only been in contact with the sperm donor once when he was too little to remember (thaank god) I did it on my own with awesome parents of course just see what happens do not push him away yet give him a chance and next time he will know to cap it if he dosen't want a kid!! good for you !! it will all work out!!
2007-01-14 19:09:03 · answer #5 · answered by tasha l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you happy? You're pregnant, you're not married, your boyfriend is freaking out (obviously not ready to be a father, so you're on your own), and you're happy? Give one good reason you should be happy! You life as an individual is over. You now have to live for your child.
Best decision? If your boyfriend doesn't have the guts to step up and be a man, have enough love for the child to give him/her up for adoption, so they can have an intact family with a mother and a father.
2007-01-14 18:55:55 · answer #6 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
NORMAL!!!! Men often are caught off-guard by the idea of being a daddy, even if a pregnancy was planned. He'll either get used to the idea slowly before the baby arrives, or have no interest what ever until baby is a month old.
2007-01-14 18:54:57 · answer #7 · answered by Angela M 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He will more then likely come around. Most guys get scared at first even if you have been trying. I think its just a guy thing to freak at first. But dont worry im sure he will come around if not im sorry and good luck
2007-01-14 18:54:01 · answer #8 · answered by April S 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he will come around my husband was the same way. Be excited and happy thank god because you are carrying a miracle inside of you don't listen to the people who are telling you to get rid of it. no matter what happens be grateful for the life god has given you the chance to hold inside of you under your heart. good luck and congratulations
2007-01-14 19:04:15 · answer #9 · answered by dragonfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry every guy freaks out when they find out they will be a daddy. give him time to get used to the idea, and you will be fine.
2007-01-14 18:58:19 · answer #10 · answered by Thumbs down me now 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have him read as much as he can--the books, websites, etc.
knowing what is to come may help him overcome whatever fears he his having.
good luck--my other half is the same way, lol
my baby is due any day now and he is as excited as can be.
2007-01-14 18:54:46 · answer #11 · answered by Shellberry 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋