Does that mean that abusive, unfaithful, lazy men are exciting?
2007-01-14 10:41:04 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Mike, you are looking at the wrong kind of women. Stay out of the bars,night clubs, discos,etc and start going to upscale locales! Go to the museum,art gallery,sporting events,university lectures,etc,etc. You meet the kind of people you like, by going to places where the same meet. Also Mike, look at women, who are 4 or 5 years older then you. Stay away from women who have already failed in a marriage, and have children. Look at the professions, and Good Luck. The higher Your standards are the better.
2007-01-14 10:48:49 · answer #1 · answered by peaches 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is not so much that confident, healthy, well-adjusted men are boring - as much as that to get to that position means that they do not engage in a lot of the "exciting" things some of their peers do:-
Many women DO find the "local bad lad" a turn on, they like the thrill of his antics, the hint of danger, the fact that today he might be driving around in a borrowed / nicked 7-series BMW, tomorrow he might be arrested OR he might be able to sell the car and take his girl on holiday for a few days.
Even taking the above into account, a well adjusted fellow need not be boring - but if his idea of excitement is to watch the TV for two hours, then wash the car, go online for a bit and then pop to bed with a nice milky drink - he may not be pushing all the buttons of a person who is after al ittle more excitment and diversity in life.
With the exception of emotionally damaged people, not many women are going to see an abusive, unfaithful lazy person as exciting - but a "risk-taker" and a "lazy abuser" are two very different things I suspect.
Just as there are guys who like to lead "calm" lives, so there are women who also like such a lifestlye.
It is about finding someone who appreciated the same values as you.
2007-01-14 10:51:34 · answer #2 · answered by Mark T 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well... I wouldn't call healthy, confident, well-adjusted men boring. I would just say your on a different level, if you get with a lady who is on the same page as you her opinion would be totally different. but no way in heck is an abusive, unfaithful, lazy man exciting.
2007-01-14 10:48:03 · answer #3 · answered by L.Rae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what kind of woman you have been talking to, but I like confident, healthy, well-adjusted men. Thats the only kind that are any good and I dont think they are boring at all.
2007-01-14 10:44:53 · answer #4 · answered by Bored&Broken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't. I prefer them that way.
Some women like bad boys.
Some women are scared to leave their abusive men.
Some women won't leave their cheating husband because they don't want to be alone.
Some women let their men be lazy because they like yelling at them, and some because it means she can do whatever she wants, because he's too lazy to do anything about it.
If you are a confident well adjusted healthy man, you will attract confident well adjusted and healthy women.
That's what you want.
Good Luck!
2007-01-14 10:50:11 · answer #5 · answered by Havana Brown 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that women DO think that, in general. I think that it's because when you're with a partner, you strive for everything to be perfect, then, when it is perfect, you get used to it and start taking it for advantage.
In contrast, when you're in a horrible relationship, you feel like you're doing something wrong, and keep trying to be a better person rather than accepting the other person isn't right for you and ending the relationship.
I think ego plays a big part of it. "I can change him/her" is a very silly romantic idea that gets into people's heads.
If someone is a jerk, they need to date a jerk to understand why being a jerk is wrong- being 'treated' to having a really good partner does not make them a better person.
You gotta live, love, live then love again to get it right.
2007-01-14 10:48:45 · answer #6 · answered by midsojo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what type of woman are you talking about? abusive, unfaithful, lazy women? most intelligent women i know are looking for intelligent, healthy, well-adjusted, confident men. i have found my man, but i know a few women who are looking for men that you've described. where do you hide yourselves?
2007-01-14 10:46:09 · answer #7 · answered by vrandolph62 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because women who like the lazy abuser, are not confident, healthy or well adjusted themselves. : ) Misery luvs company.
2007-01-14 10:51:12 · answer #8 · answered by no cutesy name : ) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that is true at all. I wish I could find some well-adjusted men.
2007-01-14 10:44:49 · answer #9 · answered by Yahoogirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The women that you've already met have obviously made the wrong impression on you. All women are different.
2007-01-14 10:45:12 · answer #10 · answered by lyndsie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋