i am currently 31 weeks pregnant and my baby girl is due March 15..my daughters dad is what some people would all a gangsta..hes constantly having to go out with his gang and fight people from other crews and he sells and does drugs..hes never hit me and hes the sweetest guy..every dime he gets from selling drugs he gives to me for our daughter..i was just wondering if sometimes guys change for the better after their baby is born???
im 19 and hes 21..we been together since i was 14 and he was 16.
thanks.
2007-01-14 10:26:52 · 14 answers · asked by Jessalynn H 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
the person you meet on day one will be the person you will see in the end. don't expect someone to change. if you don't like what he is doing at the moment, then you need to get in a better situation.
2007-01-14 11:00:30 · answer #1 · answered by dream 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can give no better advice than to get yourself to a library or bookstore quickly, and read "Random Family." Really. Cover-to-cover.
http://www.usatoday.com/life/books/reviews/2003-02-05-family_x.htm
http://www.amazon.com/Random-Family-Drugs-Trouble-Coming/dp/0684863871
I'd suggest seriously considering moving to another town. If he wants to change, he'll follow. But if he's still fighting and dealing when you're 31 weeks, he is NOT "the sweetest guy."
But given that you were "i am the tender age of 16 and im pregnant again..i already have a 15 month old daughter and i am due with this one on April 7th.2OO7..i" a little while ago, I'd say any real-life babies here have bigger problems than just the father.
2007-01-14 18:31:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey - men don't change. And when it comes to drugs, you really can't expect much of anything. He's only going to get away from that stuff if he WANTS to, and I doubt a baby is going to change anything - especially since you're already 31 weeks along! You can do better than that. Do you really want your child to be sent to college with money that came from selling drugs? What would you tell your child if he/she ever found out about that? You deserve better. Find yourself a REAL man.
2007-01-14 18:33:13 · answer #3 · answered by Megan 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want your child to be raised around drugs and fighting?? Whats going to happen if he gets killed or put in the hosiptal? How would you explain to your daughter how daddy got hurt?
2007-01-14 18:36:27 · answer #4 · answered by angel01182 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,
Sounds like you are both firmly ensconced in that culture. He isn't going to change. Nice that he gives you his drug money, but it is still drug money.
I doubt he will be able to earn drug money from prison or the grave - which is where the road he is on will inevitably lead.
Try to rise above it, your child deserves that much.
2007-01-14 18:35:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe if you ask him to....I would recommend you ask him to stop doing drugs..he could get arrested and then your baby girl would live with no father....tell him that story and he will probably change....Good Luck and I hope you have a safe Delivery!
2007-01-14 18:32:45 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(im 28 wks preg now)my husband didnt with our first. he didnt help out at all. i did the feeding, the changing, the baths, dang almost everything.with this one he is. well,he sez he will and i hope he sticks to that. i beleive he will b/c we bought a bigger car (van) bought all new things for the baby. hes the one who wanted this baby so he better! :-) guess we'll see. but anyway , sound like to me that he wont, sorry. men are like that.
2007-01-14 21:00:19 · answer #7 · answered by jessnclh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure he will change for the better if you ask him. If there's something about him and what he does that you don't like, sit down and talk with him about it and if he loves you and your daughter, he will try his hardest to do what he can for you and the baby. It's good that you've been together for so long. He really cares for you and will do everything possible for you and your daughter.
2007-01-14 18:31:30 · answer #8 · answered by kaiyas_mom07 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You are going to lose your child b/c you are an accomplice to gang and drug activity. Is it really worth it to pretend your guy is that great?
2007-01-14 18:43:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
generally they become fathers and take care of their children and spouse and/or GF. In your case i'd suggest he give up the illegal activities and find real job.
2007-01-14 18:34:58 · answer #10 · answered by singledad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋