when kids get picked on in life and beat up threatened and take stuff at home does it really die down when you grow up im 15 im goin through this how many other people do?
2007-01-14 10:22:41 · 4 answers · asked by clumsy gamer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you're in an abusive situation, talk to someone -- anyone -- who will listen to you. Anger is a really bad thing to carry around inside your head. Talk to an understanding friend and get your feelings out.
I got picked on a fair bit in high school and remember how it feels. Half the time, it left me hating myself more than my tormentor. Part of one of dealing with bullies is to stand up to them as much as you can. Maybe it's a bad idea to pick a fistfight, but you need to show them somehow that you aren't afraid of them and that their threats aren't getting to you (even if you're faking it). Bullies feed on fear and if their victim isn't playing along, they'll go after someone else.
However, if the bullying is a matter of serious physical or verbal intimidation, then you need to see an authority figure who can bring the problem to a stop. Keep in mind that other kids are probably being victimized, too, so you're doing them all a favor.
As for your question about it dying down, yes, the people who picked on me in high school were largely morons who ended up working crap jobs and living crap lives, usually burning out on drugs. (Although one or two others did mature and become nicer people.) I never had to deal with them or their kind again after I went to college.
However, the anger stayed with me from some time, and that's what did the most damage. Whatever's going on with you, don't let it hold you back from reaching your potential in life. Wherever the bad situation is, doing whatever you can to keep it from stressing you out. If you have to run away to the library and spend all your time studying, then do it. High school's only four years and most of the losers you meet there are gone afterwards, but how you do as a student stays with you for the rest of your life.
2007-01-14 11:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by Blenderhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really hurtful when anyone puts you down or picks on you. I was picked on in school and am now 33. Once you get out on your own, you can meet people that have the same interests as you and they will respect you for who you are and what kind of person you are. You will probably remember those jerks from school, but you will have real friends that become your life-long frineds throughout life. and yes, many of those jerks don't make it through college, become drop outs, addicts, and screw ups. The best revenge is to be the best you can be and be happy and successful. You will find that the frinds you make after school will more compatible anyway. Hang in there and good luck. AND if you are being threatened and beaten you may need to tell a school administrator so that you aren't harmed too severely and they are made accountable for their actions.
2007-01-14 19:05:13 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it will definitely die down, bc that's not the way things work in the adult world. But, you still have to learn to speak up for yourself as an adult or you will get walked on in other ways. The difference is, it will be a lot easier to do this as a grown up bc you usually won't have to worry about getting beat up.
I'm sorry to hear you'er going through such a bad time. Just get away from there as soon as you can and start your new life!
2007-01-14 19:37:59 · answer #3 · answered by chelleedub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was tormented and teased all through school (i was overweight) and now a few of the people that did that to me are way overweight and I'm thinner than they are. So as much as it hurts and it's painful, just know that someday someone will treat them like crap and you will have a great life!
2007-01-14 18:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋