My son is 21 and mixed up with people that "pop" pills, is there anything i can do?

Answer 1

turn him into police, no easy road there.. but maybe if they shake him up. he will stop

Answer 2

There is no easy answer to this.

There comes a time when people are responsible for their own actions. In my case, my step-son was a heavy drinker. When he finally hit 21, as we had agreed - it was time for him to leave home. Now he's 34 and says - that when I threw him out - he finally had to grow up (couldn't afford to drink and pay his bills and hold down a job to earn money to pay his bills).

Your son will probably tell you he is old enough to make his own decisions. Which is true.

When we were having problems with my step-son (I hate that term), I kept asking my wife: You can cover for him now, but what happens when he becomes legally responsible for what he does? Can you step in then and bail him out exery time? Or will the authorities consider him responsible for his actions?

These days, people seem to pop everything. Some out grow that activity. Some may damage their health before they outgrow it. Some never outgrow the activity.

I guess ...I would suggest to talk with him. Tell him you are concern about it. If he is living at home, you can threaten to kick him out (what happens if something bad happens to him then?). But if he stays home and continues, what happens if he ODs? If he is at home, I would explain that you do not believe that it is proper conduct and he will have to move out within 60 days. If you say this, you will have to stick to it. Tell him he can stay, if he gets help to stop popping pills (go with him). There should be some groups in your area (like AAA, but for people who abuse drugs).

One of the viewpoints on this, is that when people become legal age - they feel they can do whatever they want. Kids going thru this, will experiment with things. Some good. Some bad. Some kids will outgrow this and settle down.

Answer 3

Please read carefully because this comes from a person who has been there.To begin with you should stop him from indulging in that company,then observe him for a day or two to figure out if he has a problem with chemicals himself.You don't have to be a rocket scientist to do that,just observe any changes in his daily routine,small things like eating habits,personal hygiene,temper and the amount of time he spends by himself and outside the house as well as the amount of money he spends.Make a checklist of his activities and when and if you are sure just confront him and offer your help which i assure you he will reject to begin with and will claim that he doesn't have a problem but you will have to stick to your guns otherwise once it blows out of proportion things will get very complicated.
I must add here that i sincerely hope he doesn't have a problem.Best of luck.

Answer 4

I am 22 and have given my parents much grief in the past. Yelling at him, will make him rebel more. Just let him know that you know what he is up to and you don't approve. Let him know how much you care for and love him. Offer him some help. Maybe you two can go out and have a guys night. As much as I hated my parents in my business, it made me know that they did care. Keep an eye on him. If it becomes a real problem try some sort of intervention. He may dislike you for it, but in the end, he will thank you. Good luck!

Answer 5

yeah just hope that you raised him up the right way, and maybe he wont also pop pills. If you taught him like you should have then you will have nothing to worry about. He is old enough to make his own decisions, and if you taught him well he will know not to pop pills.

Answer 6

ohh this is a though one, you can talk to him about the dangers of popping pills and tell him that its extremely bad, its hard because he is an adult and he could be like "i can do whatever i want" type of thing when you tell hime you don't want him hanging around those people, but the best thing that you can do is just tell him that your there and have an honest realtionship with your son, of course he's doing it to, poppin' pills so just get him to come out and talk to you about that and dont sound all mad and parent like, just sound curious so that at least he tells you and talks to you about it.

Answer 7

Tell him that life is a funny thing...you think you have plenty of time to change your ways. But then you look back and your out of time.

Might want to ask him what his long term goals are and work towards that. He doesn't seem to have direction.

Focus on long term goals!!!

That said he might see that what he is doing will not get him there.

The problem is he feels hopeless.

For a real career you need to be working at it between 20-40 years of age.

Answer 8

What kind of pills? Ecstasy? Even if his friends take pills, it's up to him to say yes or no. All you can do is give him the facts and hope he goes in the right direction.

Answer 9

If you have talked to him and he swears he is not doing it too, and you believe him....then you should trust him. If you are not sure if he is honest to you about it you can start spending more time with him. Educate him on the use of drugs. Take him on a reality trip.....set up a time when you can visit your local prison. Talk to someone that can tell him first hand how drugs screwed up his/her life. Finally, you can have him drug tested secretly through your family doctor. Set up a routine appointment and have you doctor drug test him.

Answer 10

If you make a big deal of it, it will only push him more that way. Hopefully he will grow out of this phase, as long as you have instilled him with good morals and a stong sense of self worth. If you have not done this, then it sounds like he is in trouble.

Answer 11

Does he live at home? Do you pay for rent/food/tuition? If not, then he is truly on his own and there is nothing you can do. It's his life to ruin.