if you where pregnant whit out anymoney . what would you do have the baby and after its born move out of state and ask the guy to move with me . what i mean where the is cheaper rent and where school is not that much money and i can buy a better car . where i live it is a lot for rent like $900. what would you do . ? please not bad answers only good answer that will help me decide
2007-01-14 10:02:01 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i live in arizona . and want to move to new mexico
2007-01-14 10:10:13 · update #1
im 21 he is 22
2007-01-14 10:33:00 · update #2
Hey there wow lot rent $900.00 Wow our lot rent is $200.00 we live in central NY out in the hills Its a nice place to raise children to play and have privacy NY has the highest welfare rate actually our county Is #1 in the world yet that should tell you something about jobs around here yet going to school there would be plenty of grants to help you get on your feet,,,, marketing coordinator in Rome NY
2007-01-14 10:40:10 · answer #1 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try subsidized housing, they will let you pay rent based on your income. You can also qualify for WIC and food stamps that will feed you and the baby. Also, go after the guy for child support. The extra money every month will be helpful. Family Services will also assist w/ daycare needs.
By the way, where do you live that the rent is $900?! That's crazy to me. I only pay $400 for a three bedroom apt and that includes utilities. I would never be able to pay $900. No wonder you're having trouble. I wish you the best of luck hun.
2007-01-14 18:08:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to sit down and make a plan of pro's and Con's.
To be honest when I had my first child this is what me and my husband had done, we were not married but we are now, we moved out of the big city and into a smaller community where mortgages were cheaper than renting in the big city. We bought a house for 75% less then the average costs.
You need to have support, and if the babies father does not want to go and you still do that is fully your choice. You never know if the guy is going to stick around long term anyway _not judging but just using the stats of life to help you out. Anyways if he doesnt stick around you will still be able to afford the things you need.
At this point in your life you need to control all your options and choice wisely.
Questions like this will help you decide
If you move will it benefit you and your baby?
will you be able to find work to support yourself? - if you want you can call places before you make the big move to try to find employment prior to moving so you have a job when you move
What type of housing? house or apartment and the costs
will you have enough money monthly to cover bills and things you need?
You need to do what you feel is right not only for yourself but for your child.
Congrats on the baby and best of luck with whatever you decide.
you can email me and I can give you more info if you like
2007-01-14 18:14:22 · answer #3 · answered by BrunettesRbetter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee goin on the info you have provided so far if you don't have any money now do you think it will improve once you've had the baby. They are expensive. Do you want to bring a child into the world who see's you struggling financially all the time? It'll make them feel guilty. It's hard to give an answer when you haven't given crucial information like your age, father's age, father's income and job etc, family relationships, how long you've been together etc. And what would you do if the child was born sick. I think you have to consider all these scenarios because they can potentially happen and will you financially be able to cope? Whatever you decide i wish you all the best anyways.
2007-01-14 18:19:21 · answer #4 · answered by Lambchop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly wouldn't be asking the father to move with me to begin with. I WOULD be filing for child support however as well as some form of welfare FOR THE CHILD only and if I planned on keeping the pregnancy I would start looking for a job I could start after the baby was born. However being a 'common sense' type of person If I planned on keeping the pregnancy I'd be making plans to put the baby up for adoption once it was born.
2007-01-14 18:07:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely a decision that you have to make together. Make sure that he's going to be there for you after the baby is born, and support you financially. You won't be able to work for a few weeks after the baby is born, so you'll definitely need his support - emotionally and financially. Talk this over with your b/f, and maybe consider talking to someone close to you about this. Don't make any quick decisions. Take your time and think things over. Good luck to you! I hope that everything works out!
2007-01-14 18:21:04 · answer #6 · answered by Megan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem like you can make smart decisions! Moving to a place where it is cheaper is a good idea. Do your research and go from there. How does the dad feel about moving?
2007-01-14 18:07:05 · answer #7 · answered by Sharyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look into Idaho, Washington and Utah. The cities there are consistently ranked in the top ten for cheap rent, good jobs, etc.
2007-01-14 18:13:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both should be making a decision together, if he chooses not to move in with you and help you pay to raise your new baby then move, you gotta do what's best for your new little one.
have you applied for subsidized housing? They can gear your rent to your income and make it easier ot afford.
2007-01-14 18:06:00 · answer #9 · answered by Gig 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your support system is key when you're pregnant and taking care of a newborn. Where are you going to have the most support?
2007-01-14 18:07:53 · answer #10 · answered by neuralchick 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋