I HAVE WORK WITH MY HUSBAND FOR OVER 34 YEARS AND WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 35 YEASRS. MY HUSBAND COMES FROM THE OLD COUNTRY AND THINKS THAT EVERY THING IS HIS. I HAVE NO S.S. POINTS BECAUSE I HAVE WORKED FOR HIM ALL THESE YEAR. BUSINESS IS UNDER HIS NAME, IN FACT EVERY THING IS IN HIS NAME AND I'M SCARED.
HE TELLS ME NOT TO WORRY, HE WILL TAKE CARE OF ME.
JUST SO MANY THINGS CAN HAPPEN. WHAT CAN I DO?
I JUST DO NOT KNOW?
2007-01-14 09:59:37 · 4 answers · asked by mother 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Personal Finance
we will stay married.
he would like to move back to greece, but my 4 boys and their new family are here in calif. and i would like to stay in my country.
2007-01-14 10:22:29 · update #1
WHAT I'M ASKING IS WHAT STEPS TO I TAKE TO PROTECT MYSELF?
DO I START SAVING IN A RETIREMENT PLAN? DO I MAKE A LIVING WILL? DO I TRY TO START MAKING POINTS FOR MEDCARE AND S.S.?
OR MUST I DO ALL OF THE ABOVE?
2007-01-14 14:24:26 · update #2
If you're in the States, you're entitled to half of everything that's in his name since the date you were married. Be wary if he has everything in a company name.
You don't explain why the worry...if it's because you think there's a chance your relationship is ending, then you really should get a lawyer.
If you're truly secure in your relationship, you should be very careful how you approach this with your husband...he could take it as a sign that you're unhappy in the relationship.
If you're happy, probably the best way to approach him would be to bring up "updating your will" for the children's sake. This should give you a much better idea of how things are set up.
2007-01-14 10:15:29 · answer #1 · answered by Kim K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Greece is beautiful but you want to be close to your children and their children's children. I get that.
I think that over three decades of allowing no independence on your part is a real psychological dilemma as it would feel like betraying him for being assertive about this issue.
Your reach to have him help you with this is as far as he's willing to bend. That is the dynamic of your relationship and I doubt it will change unless you get a lawyer and a marriage councillor.
2007-01-14 10:50:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is scary, because he might have already prepared a Will giving his Assets to someone else.
You should seek the advice of a good Lawyer immediately.
Good Luck.
2007-01-14 10:06:26 · answer #3 · answered by Seeanna 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If after 35 years marriage you have no idea if you are going to stay married for retirement financial security ............... you've got issues
2007-01-14 10:04:45 · answer #4 · answered by Mopar Muscle Gal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋