I don't want people to be tottally scared of me lol but right now i kinda have a reputation of being super-nice and quiet and i hate it!! girls always take advantage of me thinking i'm like a stupid fool. it's not me at all..i guess i'm just sorta shy but i don't wanna be like that and i want 2 be able o choose my friends..not wait for people 2 come 2 me. also i'm 15 years old..10th grade...
2007-01-14 09:56:40 · 7 answers · asked by Megan. 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
People ALWAYS say they think im intemidating or hard to approach and i HATE it!! So dont Ever wish to be something your not because it might not be as nice as you think! .. and why would anyone wanna make other peope scared of them!! .. i think you just need to grow up to be honest.
2007-01-14 10:11:05 · answer #1 · answered by West-Lnds-Finest 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to be feared to be assertive. Theres a big difference between aggressive and assertive. To be assertive is to stand up for your own rights without stomping all over someone elses. Learning to be assertive is not an easy thing to do, especially if you're 15 and you don't believe you have the right to say NO.
I'm a grown adult and am just learning this. But now is the best time for you, sweetie. You need to get up every day look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you have the right to say NO to people. You are a good person. A great thing to do is to make yourself a list of positive things about yourself, hang it in your room and say them to yourself everyday. Add to it that it's ok to say NO. That you don't have to have the same opinion as everyone else to be liked.
Then try buying a book. But don't become someone that people fear.
2007-01-14 10:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by Teresa t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must be assertive don't become a jerk just stand ur ground if you feel someone is taking advantage of you step back a second and think if that's the case and say so with out coming off as a jerk as you will be in a worse place if that the way you come across and remember you are not responsible if someone thinks irrational
2007-01-14 10:19:58 · answer #3 · answered by Auther S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Errr...yeah. You must be about 14. The way you manage your social skills is to GROW UP. Stop worrying about "he said/she said" nonsense and take on a REAL problem. You know, something that doesn't involve ignorant 12 year olds and their wealthy hormones.
2007-01-14 10:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by CuteWriter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being a doormat, dont let ppl walk all over u, dont be super nice and quiet...lol..like if sumone pushes u out of the way..make a BIG SCENE, when they see that they cant just push u an get away with it then it will stop...its all up to yu
2007-01-14 10:10:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Grow up and act more mature. That will really intimidate people, like yourself, who think intimidation will achieve respect.
2007-01-14 10:54:39 · answer #6 · answered by rico3151 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wink at them.
2007-01-14 10:03:42 · answer #7 · answered by robert m 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋