Some of my co-workers and friends are all going to dinner tonight at this really nice restaurant called Edgewater. Well of course I was excluded like always, I have this wonderful boyfriend who I love with all my heart, but since a couple of them hate him( may I add they've never actually talked to him) they did not invite me.
And one of the guys had the nerve to call my boyfriend and tell him they were all going to dinner, well then that just upset my boyfriend because he thinks they're trying to be mean to me which made him mad at them. And I just told him not to worry about it because we can have a nice evening at home together. Why are people so crappy though. They tried to hide it from me and when I found out they just acted like it was no big deal. It was to me I believe that if someone says their your friend they should be no matter what, and if they don't like something or someone in your life then their really not a friend at all. Should I even bother talking to them???
2007-01-14 09:54:36 · 13 answers · asked by sweetgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This unconditional friendship you're talking about isn't friendship at all. A real friend cares about you and when you make mistakes they are obligated to tell you so because they are doing it for the bettering of you, not for themselves. It was rude, however, to call your boyfriend and rub it in his face. I will tell you this though, with as many friends as i've had, I had one in particular that ruined his life on more than one occasion because he refused to listen to me. The external view of a situation is often more correct in friendships than the internal view, which is clouded by emotions as opposed to logic.
2007-01-14 10:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by Just Another Godless Liberal lol 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
In the words of Jim Morrison "People are strange", Don't let them get you down. Do you really want to be friends with such fake and shallow people?
If they are two faced and crappy to you, chances are very high that they will be that way to each other. The clique will die a quick death, and they will be talking bad about each in no time at all.
Breath a sigh of releif, you have a few less assholes in your life!!
If you are hurt by what they have done to you, you are probably a good and loyal friend, don't change! Friends are measured by quality not quantity.
2007-01-14 10:04:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
They're jelous and need attenton. They want to be cool just hanging out with you. Just tell them in a nice way that they're not your friend or ignore them. They pretend to be your friend because one of your friends is a friend with you. A little complicated, I know but, they're just not good people.
2007-01-14 10:16:27 · answer #3 · answered by Amalahbambah Redsoxgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They sound jealous or something and obviously have issues of THEIR own. It's not your fault at all and you sound like a good friend. I hate it when people are fake and act like they are your friend when it truth they are not. Do not worry about it, just continue to be yourself and remain cordial, but don't return the fake-attitude.
Good luck and God bless! :)
2007-01-14 10:33:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen, your not going to change for anyone.i had similar problems iwth my boyfreind
beleive it or not, if they are single, sometimes its jealousy. sometimes people are jealous that you have something great going with your boyfreind and they dont have one or are having trouble with one
dont compormise yourself, your all you have
my friends HATED when i got into a serious relationship and they hated my boyfreind because they felt threateened
well its 2 years later and im still with my same boyfreind, and me and my freinds get along fine now
its really hard to juggle things liike boyrreinds, freinds, work, ect but youll do it..just dont abandon your freinds its the worst thing you can do.
you need to prove to them that you love hima nd just because they dont like him, its not gonna matter. dont act like it bothers you, thats what people want. (sick right?) just be happy for what you have..people like that dont deserve you.
c--cm
2007-01-14 09:59:33 · answer #5 · answered by carly m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they're not ur friends in the first place...so don't talk to them or try 2 be nice 2 them if they're so mean to u. and get some other friends...
2007-01-14 09:59:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because they're not your friends, just stop dealing with them and move on
2007-01-14 09:59:25 · answer #7 · answered by o.O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hey look at it this way:
ssome people click,and some people don't.That's how it is.But you guys are co workers right?So just be aquaintainces,because they obviously don't wanna be friends,and you should stress yourself over people who don't wanna even give friendship a chance.
2007-01-14 10:25:39 · answer #8 · answered by Afiya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are not very good friends. Maybe you and your boyfriend can find some better friends.I am sorry that they hurt you.
2007-01-14 10:00:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would give them a very deliberate and ovbious cold shoulder. They will be kissing your @ss in no time.
2007-01-14 11:42:07 · answer #10 · answered by chelleedub 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋