I've been w/ my boyfriend for 8 months & still can't have an orgasm during sex. I've had one partner before & couldn't orgasm w/ him either. Oral sex usually works, as well as masturbation by my boyfriend or myself. Vibrators don't work. Even before I was on Zoloft I couldn't climax. Even tried Viagra w/ no luck.
I can get close & feel like I'm about to orgasm, but then it'll go away. I've tried masturbating during sex or having my boyfriend do it, but that doesn't help. Tried a bunch of positions. I don't always stress about it. I enjoy sex a lot, but I'm disappointed that I can't orgasm during sex. Any tips? I've talked to my boyfriend & he's tried everything he can think of.
2007-01-14 09:41:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Even when I'm not focusing on it & just having fun, it doesn't happen.
2007-01-14 09:48:57 · update #1
Don't think about it.just relax,go with the flow.
2007-01-14 09:45:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex therapy can really help with problems like these. A lot of times, some women just don't have as heightened a sensitivity as most do, and this is a common problem. You might also be post-orgasmic....the part about the orgasm kind of "going away" made me think of that.
2007-01-14 17:48:10 · answer #2 · answered by AracelyOCU 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might not ever be able to. A lot of women just can't. Honestly, the best thing to do in your case is not to fixate on orgasming during intercourse, and focus on orgasming during each sex encounter. Whether that's by oral/manual before intercourse, or with a sixty-nine, or whatever.
One thing you may consider... I've known several girls who were in your situation (orgasmic but not during intercourse) who were able to climax during penetration when they went on more effective forms of birth control. When the fear of pregnancy was lowered, they were able to relax and not have subconscious stress. Not knowing you (maybe you are both sterilized and this is useless), it may help.
2007-01-14 17:50:24 · answer #3 · answered by MissA 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women don't orgasm with vaginal intercourse. That's because THE organ for sexual please for women is the clitoris, and it's not close enough to the vaginal entrance to be stimulated in most positions for vaginal intercourse.
I'm giving you a number of links that will help you and your boyfried to understand this. BUt you have also mentioned being on Zoloft, and that is one of a number of medications that can disrupt any portion of a man's or a woman's sexual response. I'll give you links about that as well.
Do talk with your doctor about the possibility of switching to a different drug that has a lesser change of interfering with your sexual response. They do exist.
2007-01-14 17:53:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to have your boyfriend lay on his back and sit up on him while you are having sex. Let him hold you up by your breasts. You do the work so you can get into the zone. This works for my wife.
2007-01-14 17:47:34 · answer #5 · answered by ctraugh2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think too much about your performance, relax more during sex, start with oral sex then finish off with inter course of course!!!!!
2007-01-14 17:46:52 · answer #6 · answered by tewarienormy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what your going through is pretty normal alot of females doesn't have until their mid 30's or 40's.its a very mental and spiritual experience
2007-01-14 17:47:09 · answer #7 · answered by K.B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it with passion talk to him and lead him then increase the speed trust me it works.
2007-01-14 18:28:17 · answer #8 · answered by Lights Out #3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might be a problem with your body on the inside....ask a doctor
2007-01-14 18:03:39 · answer #9 · answered by subhuman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time, it'll *** to you.
2007-01-14 17:46:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋