I just find out yesterday that i was pregnant. I told my boyfriend, and he suggest that i should get an abortion, because we are too young to have our own baby (i m 22 and he's 25). Actually i do not think that we are too young, its just hes too lazy to find a job, well for the last few months he did try to search for job related to what he study, but it didnt work out. I really want to have this baby, because i'm scared of abortion, but i also want to give my baby the best things i can. I really dont know what to do now, is there any other way except for me to get an abortion??? I m very confuse right now....i dont know what i can do, sometime i hate my boyfriend for his decision, but i understand what hes thinking.....i just dont know what to do right now, at this moment....
2007-01-14 09:33:30 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
No, hon, you should not, and I think you know that. I'm going to be blunt here, but it is out of genuine concern for both you and your baby. Whether you are "too young" or not, you already HAVE a baby. He or she is just small right now. Her heart begins to beat just three weeks after fertilization.
It is not your baby's fault that your boyfriend is lazy, or that he is being a jerk. Your baby is totally innocent and does not deserve to die. Abortion is forever. You will never be able to bring your baby back.
If your boyfriend really cared about you, he would not ask you to put yourself at risk and pay someone to kill the child you made together. You are going to have to be strong and protect yourself and your baby. Don't allow yourself to be manipulated. Don't feel sorry for your boyfriend. He made the choice to have sex with you, knowing a baby could result. Give your boyfriend some time and space. Maybe he will come around and be a man, and maybe he will not. Either way, you will find out what kind of a man he really is. Remember, you can't control his behavior--you can only make sure YOU do the right thing.
The best thing you can give your baby is LIFE! Do you know how violent abortion is? The truth hurts, but I think you need to see it. It will help you do the right thing. Please take a look at this information:
Photos and Video of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com
Photos and Facts About Your Baby's Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/girlswhoaborted.cfm
Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm
http://www.nrlc.org/Factsheets/FS15_pilldanger.pdf
Please, go to a crisis pregnancy center as soon as possible and talk to one of the counselors there. All of their services are totally free and confidential. They can give you referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free ultrasounds (at some centers); free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; and counseling and emotional support. You can find one near you by calling 1-800-395-HELP or visiting:
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/worldwide_directory.asp
You can do the right thing. Unlike abortion, you will never regret it. If I can help you in any way, please feel free to email me.
2007-01-14 15:52:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
This is your choice and your choice only. If you want to have this baby, then go for it. I'm not saying that it will be easy, but at least you'll have the satisfaction of knowing you did the right thing, and you won't be having those "What if I did things differently" moments. Don't let your b/f push you into doing something that you don't want to do. There's always adoption as well. You have a lot of choices. I think you need to sit down and think things through, and not let your b/f's opinions get in the way of what you feel in your heart. Honestly, I was married at 19 and had my first child at 20. I don't think that 22 and 25 is too young to start a family. It's not about age - it's about maturity, and where you are with your life. If you think that you can handle it, then have the baby and raise the child on your own. If not, look into adoption. But PLEASE, think it through before you go the abortion route. Good luck to you! I hope everything works out!
2007-01-14 10:28:43 · answer #2 · answered by Megan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont get an abortion just because your boyfriend is lazy. And 22 and 25 is definitley not to young. I was married and had a baby at 20 , 23, 27 and now Im pregnant with our 4th baby. A baby is a blessing and even if you dont think you can give her a great life at the moment, that can all change later on. We didnt have money when we got married and had our first baby. But I would never think of having an abortion. I cant even imagine life without my children. You are carrying a baby right now that will one day tell you they love you and want to hug you all the time. Its so great.
2007-01-14 09:42:39 · answer #3 · answered by Blondi 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont decide against an abortion because you're scared of it...theres really nothing to be scared of, especially if you're not that far along. Go and see your doctor and talk it over with them. Do you think you'd be able to look after the baby on your own if your boyfriend decided it was too much responsability? Would you be happy asking your parents for help? What do you want from life in the next 5 years? How would a baby fit in? Think about what would be best for you. Regarding adoption, do you think you could bear to give up your baby if you took it full term? Also, remember lots of children put up for adoption have a hard time of it, it is not a painless option for you or your foetus.
2007-01-14 10:03:35 · answer #4 · answered by Stardust 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the end, it's ultimately the woman's decision. You can always carry the baby to term and put the baby up for adoption. Or, keep the baby, 22 is not too young. Just be aware that he may resent you for keeping the baby and he'll have reason to always be in your life if Baby's around. Are you ready to possibly take care of baby on your own? (Sure, friends have good intentions and may say they'll be there to support you, but not many go the extra distance because their own life eventually gets in the way.) Can you talk to your parents?
As far as boyfriends, never settle for less than you deserve! Be true to yourself and the rest will fall into place.
2007-01-14 09:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by RaynorShine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abortion is a very personal decision and if you don't feel that it's right or something you want to do, don't let your boyfriend pressure you into it. If you want to keep the baby, you should. There are programs such as Medicaid that will help you if he doesn't. He will have to pay child support, so that will help you also. Adoption is another option, and you should research it and talk to people that have adopted or given their child up for adoption. There is open adoption where you can receive letters and photos from the adoptive parents, and sometimes you can see the child. If you want to give your child the best, do what your heart tells you and remember just b/c your boyfriend helped you create this child does not give him the right to tell you what to do. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-01-14 09:46:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to bail the boyfriend if he won't get a job, and you also need to remember that no matter what the "easy fix" mentality of society tells you, abortion is not the only way to deal with a baby you aren't ready for. There are many couples out there who can't have kids, and if you had the child and put him/her up for adoption, you could make their dream come true. Sure, it would hurt for a while, but think of the joy that some couple would have, that would last for a lifetime.
2007-01-14 09:44:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is up to you whether or not you get an abortion. He can't force you to do anything. If you want to keep the baby then keep the baby. I am only 18 and I am currently 30 weeks pregnant with a lil boy, and I am married. You are not too young to have your own baby. Trust me.
2007-01-14 09:40:30 · answer #8 · answered by Deborah P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well really its not up to him! all he did was gt some plasure you are the one that has to decide what is right for you which sounds to me you have. if you wanna keep your baby kep our baby. or theres always adoption. some people will even pay the medical bills and everything to get your baby. my babys father caled me and told me one nigh i should have been asking him what he wanted becuz he would have wanted me to have an abortion. i was like what *****? i told him hell no this is my body my choice. it may be our baby but i have decided to keep it. and ya he's coming around slowly but i could give a ****. plus to begin with when we started ou seeing each other he said f i was toget pregnant i had better not even think of abortion. honestly i did. for like a second. then when i went to make for sure at the dr the next day and they said i was indeed pregnant i coudn't believe i'd even think about it. i more your baby than it is his cuz you gotta ruin your body for it. so you do what you know is best for you.
2007-01-14 09:48:45 · answer #9 · answered by Kimi is 31 weeks 1/7 w/#2! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont get an abortion if you want to have the baby because i think you will regret it for the rest of your life do you love the guy because if not leave him there are good guys out there just hard to find, but dont ever think you cant do it alone
2007-01-14 09:43:36 · answer #10 · answered by soonersmike84 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋