i have been married for 15 years and have two children, 12 years old and 5 years old, my husband left for a business trip, and i found out about his affair.
2007-01-14 09:17:52 · 8 answers · asked by dƒ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It does get better but it takes some time. If you guys split up, try and get comfortable being on your own with your kids before you start dating again. It will make future relationships better. I am sorry to hear about your marriage failing, but I wouldn't stay with someone who didn't take the vows seriously. Good luck in the future.
2007-01-14 09:23:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you suddenly don't have a marriage, hon. Marriage is Admiration, Respect, Passion and Trust. The trust is gone, the guy has shared his body and soul with another woman, and the respect and admiration you had for him are now in the toilet. If he were willing to flush the babe, and get into counseling, it would be two years before any trust could be regained, and that is no guarantee... and there is all the truth in the world, "once a cheater, always one....". When mine did that, the very thought of the guy touching me again made my skin crawl... We were married 18 years, and had it all .... ALL! and I left..... it was over.
Does the hurting stop? No, not really, but when you accept that what you loved isn't there anymore, you can get on with your life. And after you have filed, if you are a pretty lady, there is another guy out there.... try Yahoo Personals, Match.com.
2007-01-14 17:28:37 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry. 14 years and 1 son. I came home from Iraq and found out. It has been 6 months and under 1 month since divorce. It is still hard. She is now officially dating one of the guys. It hurts but we are better. Kharma is great avenger. What goes around comes around.
2007-01-14 17:29:51 · answer #3 · answered by mferunden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all remember that life does go on, yes, it is hard right now. but try and be strong at least for the kids, and in time, you will be able to cope. Trust me, this will be his loss. God will see you through this, and he has an even better plan in store for you. Now you have to work on doing for you, and the kids.We all go through trials, and the test is who you call on, in your time of need, keep praying, and keep trusting in the Lord. Better Days are in store for you! Happy New Year!
2007-01-14 17:40:27 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assure you that the hurting does go away. You have to be strong for your children. Somedays they may be your only reason for getting out of bed. You have to take it day by day. You don't deserve to be cheated on. Remember that. You are alot stronger than you think You will see that in time. I have felt your pain and believe me, you will be okay. May God give you strength and courage.
2007-01-14 17:24:54 · answer #5 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow 15 years, that really has to hurt. I think, if you are getting a divorce, to try and find other things to distract yourself with. Eventually you'll forget about him and it'll be better.
2007-01-14 17:23:32 · answer #6 · answered by sillyshas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could have you own affair and then hate yourself. you could leave him and have second thougts the rest of your life you you caold talk to him forgive him and seek help.
2007-01-14 17:22:33 · answer #7 · answered by xxgq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time. But life does get better..
2007-01-14 17:24:40 · answer #8 · answered by Tom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋