To those who were shy before, how did you overcome your shyness? I've become a lot better since high school, but not as open as I would like to be. Sometimes it gets hard to think of what to say to people. Some people are easy to talk to, others are difficult to talk to. I usually find the really loud, talkative, but nice people really easy to talk to. Anyone have any suggestions on how to fully break out of my shell? I hate having those awkward silent moments.
2007-01-14 09:13:49 · 14 answers · asked by somegirl 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Just to let people know, I'm a girl ;)
2007-01-14 09:24:18 · update #1
Say what you are thinking you are entitled to opinion and they are entitled to agree or disagree. If you are shy you are quite probably a considerate person anyway so there is little to fear in expressing your opinion.
Learning to be comfortable maintaining eye contact is important.
Learn also hoe to control your body do no hunch into a ball. Hold your head higher keep your shoulders back and make your body language open and welcoming instead of saying "please don't notice me".
Be proud to be yourself!!!! You are one of a kind.
2007-01-14 09:20:33 · answer #1 · answered by Bohdisatva 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way, and it's very hard to talk to people sometimes. I just always try to tell myself 'If I don't at least try to talk to people, I will never get better.' Unfortunately my shyness has caused me to miss out on so many good things in life, and I'm always determined to do whatever I can to get over it and not be shy around people. Anyways, I wish you luck and just remember that you're not the only one
2007-01-14 17:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by Nicky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am the EXACT same way. Its such a relief to know I'm not the only one. I have yet to overcome the shyness, but like you I have gotten a lot better. it's easier for me once I've known someone a while. just continue to be friendly to people, and smile, and say Hi. just show people you are friendly.
2007-01-14 17:26:55 · answer #3 · answered by tweetybird37406 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The older I get the less shy I become. I guess just being in social situations over and over I started to become more outgoing. Lifting weights has always bolstered my self confidence...but I rarely do that anymore.
2007-01-14 17:18:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Education - helped immensly by giving me the knowledge to speak to anything (oposed to looking like an idiot because you dont know what you're talking about). What i say is always backed up with referencing or i research the subject for validity or i speak from my own lifes experience. Today this has turned out well because some groups i'm associated with dont like to continue discussions without me being there.
Dress - if i am comfortable in what i wear then i'm comfortable around people
Personal hygiene - being well groomed gives you confidence also
Health - getting my teeth fixed was a BIG boost to my confidence
Resposibility - taking on responibility puts me in a position where "I HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO BE CONFIDENT" because people depend on ME and at times other peoples lives or their wellbeing DEPEND ON IT. i.e. being a parent where your childrens wellbeing depends on it, being a Team leader for over 100 staff where they look to me for guidance, being a behaviourist where people depend on "restraint strategies" i write
where they can implement them with safety for themselves and others they care for.
However, in saying all that, i still feel i'm shy in comparison to other "out there people" i associate with but when i'm in my ZONE people know very well to stay out of my way ;)
In essance, lifes experience and education will help you along your way but for the most it's dependant on YOU getting yourself out there and "doing it".
2007-01-14 17:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by Truth D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't really think it possible to ever really get over being shy. I myslef am shy and no matter how much you over come there will always be a situation that will always make you shy. Now there will be namy situations you will over come and not be shy about anymore. anyways as you get older and intangle your self in more divers situations you will be more confident. plus don't worry allot of girls like a shy guy. good luck,
2007-01-14 17:16:52 · answer #6 · answered by Orselo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I used to be shy and then i started hanging out with people who would talk to anyone so I learned from them and now I'll talk to anyone!
2007-01-14 17:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just started acting like a friendly, outgoing person. Before long, it was easier to do, and after a while, I was that way all the time, and didn't have to think about it.
2007-01-14 17:18:37 · answer #8 · answered by J.R. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Start talking to everyone. If they don't like it, they'll let you know. If it's with women, just walk up to the most beautiful woman around, and talk to her. The most she can do is tell you to go away.
2007-01-14 17:18:52 · answer #9 · answered by Chris K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one of the best things to do is to interact with new people that you dont know and be as outgoing as possible, like at a restaurant that you have never been to or will never go again
2007-01-14 17:17:25 · answer #10 · answered by hanumistee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋