I have jealous wife who hold all the status and I am expected to put up with it all and no be bothered or hurt. I love this man but feel hurt by his actions in not standing up to his jealous wife over us what do I do?
2007-01-14 09:09:42 · 21 answers · asked by Sarah L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry only I don't understand your question it sounds like you are a man engaged to a man only you are Sarah!!!!! whatever you are it is wrong
2007-01-14 09:15:34 · answer #1 · answered by Bernie c 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmm, english doesnt seem like your first language, so I may have misunderstood the question you were attempting to ask? h=The truth of the matter is, is that if someone marries someone for their moeny/status - theyve done it for their own benefit, |I think this man you are engaged to is taking the mckey out of you - and the joke is on you, he would never leave his 'sugar mommy' - rich wife - as money is all thats important to him - that and the status it brings, if he truly was capable of findin a loving relationship - he wouldnt have married this woman in the first place and he would have waited for true love, as ,much as this mau hurt you - I really dont believe he cares for you at all, I believe youa re his ego boosting status symbol, you need to get rid of him - keep the ring, youve earned it! although your pride may want to throw it back in his face. The truth of the ,atter is , is that marriage is a life long comiitment - unless you have been forced into the marriage, i knew a man once he married a frigid, prim, stroppy asnd repressed woman - becasue she had money and her own home and she kept him, he's a a tom cat and will get his leg over if he could gget away with it - but he has too much to lose - her money/status in the community and the perks of it. IM my estimation of what a man is - he never will be, he''s a CAD - look it up in the dictionary - good luck hun and get free of this creep
2007-01-14 13:43:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First call this pretended engagement off.
That will make things clearer in your head and will send the right signal to the wife and your partner.
They can't remain married for ever, and it looks like you've still have a few things to know about him before tying the knot.
You know, marriage is not an achievement.
What's marriage without trust, respect and partnership.
Try and get that from your guy and then you won't have to fight with him or his ex.
She'll be his ex, and you two will be able to focus on your future.xx
2007-01-14 09:24:27 · answer #3 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well the first mistake was getting engaged when he still had a wife. U have to close one door before opening another and of course you're going to be in the drama if he still has drama in his life.There is nothing u can do it's his situation that wasn't resolved so now u have to get in where u fit in.If he loves u then he will settle his disputes with her and get with u when everything is taken care of.She's jealous because she's the wife think of it as if it was u , u would feel the same way. I understand your side too and u love him but u kinda set yourself up to be hurt.
2007-01-14 09:18:59 · answer #4 · answered by SingleMommy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your question isn't exactly coming through but if are saying are engaged, no sweetheart you are not engaged to a married man.
That man is married to his wife and from the looks of things you tell us , he plans on staying married to her because he loves her. You shouldn't be jacking around with a married man in the first place. Find a single man before you get engaged. It works better that way.
2007-01-14 09:22:37 · answer #5 · answered by Nicki 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
how could u blame her for being jealous. sounds as if she is still holding all of the cards here. if i were u i would go get someone new, who had the time for u, who had no other priorities but u. if u are bothered by his wife, just think how u are bothering and hurting her. of course u won't know how it feels until it's done to u.
2007-01-14 09:16:11 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
find out if the wife is there for status or if she loves him,that puts her core upset in perspective, then your own and his. Is his status more to him, then both of you then ask him to go to hell hypocrites like that are not men, they are cowards and so are women who ***** about love but only really love the status and title in the marriage. Are you a Muslim then you have rights wether public likes it or not,either abolish the pate tic law/DO NT MARRY or dont force people to remain married if one party want a divorce out let it be an option our system can delay a divorce running into years and years.
2007-01-14 09:34:00 · answer #7 · answered by cj 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't be involved with an already married man. If he's doing this to his first wife, who's to say he won't do this to you someday. Married, even to a jealous wife... still means the man is married... and I hate to tell you this... he's married and it's not to you... nor can it be, until he is legally divorced.
2007-01-14 09:16:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How can you be engaged to someone who's married? He can't marry you that would be bigamy. Unless he divorces his wife there is no future for you. Find a single man with whom you can built a real relationship, not a part time one.
2007-01-14 09:22:24 · answer #9 · answered by alec A 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, first of all you cannot marry him; if you do he will be committing bigamy. If you have children in such a non-marriage what will they be?
Clearly he lives with his wife and I am sure he has told you she doesn't understand him. If he is disloyal to his wife how could you ever be sure that he would be loyal to you.
The hardest thing for you to face up to is that whilst his marriage may lack sparkle he wants the security of that to keep his life in balance but your role to him is the "chase" from which he derives the wonderful pleasure of enjoying the excitement that he once enjoyed with his wife.
This "engagement" of yours is not real. He is stealing something from you. It may be hard, very hard, to walk away from this selfish romance of his but it is what you have to do.
Pick up with your old friends and gradually you will realise that you did the most wise thing you could. This is the way we learn our lessons if life.
2007-01-14 09:29:51 · answer #10 · answered by greatbrickhill 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hello!!He is still married to this woman!What more do you need?he is NEVER going to leave his wife for you,doesn't matter what he says.he is a lier.You need to get out now,and stop kidding yourself,because this man is playing you for a fool,and you are biting the line big time.She will always be there in the background,especially if they have children together,it's not as simple as just getting divorced.However i do wish you luck,and i do hope that I am wrong
2007-01-14 09:25:51 · answer #11 · answered by pinkydinkydoo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋