Should I tell my bestfriend that I slept with her boyfriend.................I know I'm a bad friend but I still had him first and he told me he still loved me and that he wanted me back!!!
2007-01-14 09:03:01 · 27 answers · asked by Brandi G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
thanx i didn't actually have sex with him yet i just wanted to know what you guys would do in the situation, i'll just tell him to go **** his self and I'll tell her that he is continuously trying to seduce me thanxx every1
2007-01-14 12:43:50 · update #1
I am all about honesty. Still, you need to ask yourself, what are you trying to accomplish by telling your bestfriend that you slept with her boyfriend. I dont see anything good that will come out of it. However, if I am understanding you correctly, you and her boyfriend had a little history before, and it sounds like you two will do it again. If that is the case, it is just a matter of time before she finds out. If you are going to keep sleeping with her boyfriend, go ahead and tell her. Just to be ready to gain a boyfriend and lose a bestfriend.
2007-01-14 09:10:12 · answer #1 · answered by Oracle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand, that your friendship with her is over. Sooner or later it will come out, either from you or the boy you slept with. The only honourable thing to do is to tell her, before she finds out from somebody else.
As a guy, I'll tell you, that it's not likely that he wants just you. It could be just a short term feeling or urge that he has for you. After a month or even less, he'll probably move on.
It seems bleak, since you've lost the boy and the girlfriend, but you'll grow tremendously from this, and it will reflect positively upon your future relationships.
2007-01-14 09:16:11 · answer #2 · answered by Mirko F 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's just playing you...you've been taken advantage of...just like you took advantage of your friendship with your best friend...if it came to surface now, though its true happenin's to confront with, It will indeed cause a friction in the level of trust your friend had for you. This is a very touchy subject with close friends. The outcome is going to depend on the kind of relationship you've been known to have in the past. You know the honest truth, and will have to deal with it from your own judgements based on your friendship with your best Friend. If this person is TRULY your best friend, someone you've confided to about some really personal issues, then you might be able to tell her. You'll have ot also expect some serious ranting.
If you have just a "social" friendship with your best friend...expect some really serious drama...
Either way...the truth always comes out....no matter what, even if its twenty years from now. You just have to be your own judge and decide whether to bear with the fact that you'll never forget it and will regret it for not telling or bear with that fact that it would behind you if it was brought forth...Good Luck...and BTW...whatever you do...don't go on the Jerry Springer show over this...it really isn't worth it. ;)
2007-01-14 09:23:11 · answer #3 · answered by Rmprrmbouncer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't do that to a friend and that guy you slept with should of broke it off before getting it on with you cuz he's cheating. Do you want a cheater? Don't tell your bestfriend. The reason is that it would hurt her and you don't want her to hurt for something you did wrong. Move on as if it didn't happen. And if her boyfriend tells you that (gettem' into bed) line again tell him to go f..himself.
2007-01-14 09:09:59 · answer #4 · answered by Tasha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are so vain... Do you know that???
I have a friend that did that to me...
She told me that my ex-boyfriend told her that she love her and all those stuff but anyway...
What happened??
My ex-boyfriend admitted his mistake and he wants to gain my trust back. everything really went complicated.
I actually dont trust that girl anymore and they didn't end up with each other.
Fact is the guy have series of relationship right now and knowing all those girls that he have fooled...
* what do you know if you really value your friendship you shouldnt have done that to her in the first place.
* put yourself in other person shoes and if that person did that to you... what will you feel? what should you feel? Would you understand? And will you forgive???
* better tell your "friend" what you did!
2007-01-14 09:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boyfriends come and go...down the road you will probably not even remember many of their names. On the other hand, friends are and can be a long lasting relationship. You must decide which of these are more important to you. If you tell your friend, you probably won't have her friendship anymore. Good Luck with your decision.
2007-01-14 09:11:10 · answer #6 · answered by mamaonetexasone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, right before you kick her teeth in, you B****. You are a lot more than a bad friend. It's going to take a long time for you to respect yourself once you're older looking back. Oh Yeah, it will hit you. May take a few more disasters and friendships you ruin. But when you are older, you're going to feel this!! @8-(
2007-01-14 09:18:25 · answer #7 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you made your choice and it's now time to take the consequences, what you did would lead you to losing your best friend and I'm sure you knew this when you decided to be with her boyfriend, now what I want to say is: if you and her boyfriend had the chance to be together before then why didn't yo utake the chance? why did you have to leave it till now and hurt your friend this way? you can always find a man but not always find "A BEST FRIEND"! if you love your friend very much and if you're ready to be true to yourself and her then cut your relationship with the guy and go tell her everything because you own her this.
2007-01-14 09:12:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well that's not a good thing..So are you two planning on hooking up again? If you are you really need to tell her because she's gonna find out anyway. And it would be better to hear it from you then everyone else..And if you two are not going to hook up again, you still need to let her know if you want to try and save your friendship with her..Best of luck..
2007-01-14 10:02:53 · answer #9 · answered by over worked 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking us? You should have thought about it FIRST, not after-the-fact.
And btw, just cause he wants you, you slept with him? Because of what HE felt? It had nothing to do with what you feel for him??? That sounds kind of insecure.
Honey, ya got a lot of maturing to do. Really.
Put some self-love, your future and your integrity before your sex drive.
Sorry to sound harsh, but I feel you need a BIG wakeup call.
2007-01-14 09:13:44 · answer #10 · answered by americansneedtowakeup 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋